Truth-or-dare can be tons of fun, but after you’ve been married for a few years it might start to feel like there aren’t any interesting “truths” left! So instead of asking about the past, here are some ideas for sexual truths that are focused on the present, and that have answers that may change over time. These truths are intended to be evergreen topics that evoke the embarrassment/confessional tone of truth-or-dare questions even for couples that have been married for a while. Hopefully they’re challenging enough to balance with the sexual dares that come easily to mind.

The “truths” are numbered so you can pick one randomly or use the random sexual truth-or-dare generator!

1. What’s the “dare” you really want to give me, but are hesitating for some reason?
2. What’s the “truth” you really want to ask me, but are hesitating for some reason?
3. And why are you hesitating?
4. What’s the “dare” that you’re hoping I ask you?
5. What’s the “truth” that you’re hoping I ask you?
6. Have any of your sexual limits changed since we got married?
7. Have any of your sexual limits changed that I don’t know about yet?
8. Do you have any sexual limits that you want to change?
9. What has most surprised you about how our sex life has developed over the past year?
10. What sex act have you been most surprised to enjoy?
11. What sex act do you enjoy that you’d be most embarrassed for your best friend to find out that you enjoy?
12. What new sex act do you want to try together?
13. What sexual achievement are you working towards?
14. What are you working on right now to improve our sex life?
15. What could I do to enhance the ambient atmosphere and mood of sexuality in our marriage?
16. What was the last sexual achievement that you told someone other than me about?
17. What did you say to your friends the last time you talked about sex
18. Describe your most recent sexual fantasy about me.
19. I promise I won’t judge you. Describe a sexual fantasy you have about me that you haven’t shared because you’ve been afraid I might react negatively.
20. On a sexual scale of 1 to 5 where 5 is the dirtiest, how dirty are you feeling right now?
21. If you knew I’d say yes to any sexual request right now, what would you ask?
22. What sex act are you interested or willing to try once, with the understanding that you may not want to do it again?
23. When we start talking about sex, what am I doing in the first image that comes to your mind?
24. When we start talking about sex, what are you doing in the first image that comes to your mind?
25. What act of foreplay are you looking forward to performing on me?
26. What act of foreplay are you looking forward to receiving from me?
27. Imagine that you come home from work and I give you a sexual surprise — what is it?
28. Imagine that I will write you a 200-word essay about any element of my sexuality — what writing prompt do you give me?
29. Imagine that we have several hours to elaborately prepare for sex — what do we plan to do?
30. In your fantasy I’m reluctant to perform some sex act but eventually agree and end up enjoying it — what is the sex act?
31. Imagine that I send you a sexual picture while you’re at work — what am I doing in the picture?
32. Imagine that you find a sexual secret note from me in your lunch box — what did I write about?
33. In your fantasy I’m begging you to do some sex act with me — what am I begging for?
34. Imagine that you just had a great accomplishment in life — how do we celebrate sexually?
35. Imagine that we just had amazing sex — in your fantasy, what do I say to you immediately afterwards?
36. Imagine that I’m your sex slave for a whole day… (pick from below)
37. … what are your first three commands?
38. … what are the three most important rules I have to follow?
39. … how will I be disciplined if I break the rules?
40. … what will I wear?
41. … where will we go?
42. … how will we spend our time?
43. What’s the best or most effective way for me to initiate sex with you?
44. What’s your favorite time of day to have sex?
45. What sexual activity would you enjoy waking up to?
46. What do I do (or could I do) that makes you feel really sexy?
47. What signal do I give that makes it very obvious to you that I want to have sex?
48. Next time we have sex what do you want me to wear? It can be an outfit I own, or anything you can imagine.
49. How can I turn you on by flaunting my body?
50. What can I wear in public that turns you on?
51. Next time we’re in public can we find a place to hide and have a quickie?
52. Next time we’re in public will you secretly flash me?
53. Next time we’re in public will you secretly perform oral on me for one minute?
54. Next time we’re in public will you secretly finger me?
55. Next time we’re in public will you wear a wireless vibrator?
56. In what public place do you most want to fool around or have sex?
57. Other than our house, where should we plan to have sex ASAP?
58. What outdoor location should we plan to have sex at ASAP?
59. What’s your favorite way for me to address you during foreplay or sex? (Name, nickname, “baby”, “lover”, or whatever terms you use in your marriage.)
60. Aside from your favorite way for me to address you, what could I call you that would really turn you on?
61. What kind of dirty talk to you want to hear from me right now?
62. What do you want me to cry out when I’m close to orgasm or having an orgasm?
63. What do you want to draw on my body?
64. What do you want me to draw on your body?
65. What activity would you like to try simultaneously with sex to create a bifecta?
66. What non-sexual activity or service can I perform for you in a sexual manner? (E.g., cleaning, cutting hair, yoga.)
67. What’s your favorite position for sex other than our usual?
68. What’s your favorite sexual position for receiving pleasure?
69. What’s your favorite sexual position for giving me pleasure?
70. What can I do to make you feel like a sexual king or queen?
71. What do I do that makes you orgasm quickly or lose control?
72. What do you think I could do that would make you orgasm quickly or lose control?
73. What sex act do I do that you enjoy that you want me to do more of?
74. What’s your favorite sex toy or sex furniture that we use?
75. What’s your second favorite sex toy or sex furniture?
76. Describe how you’d want me to use my fingers on you right now.
77. Describe how you’d want me to use my mouth on you right now.
78. Describe how you’d want me to use my [genitals] on you right now.
79. Where do you want me to ejaculate right now?
80. Setting aside my satisfaction, how do you want me to pleasure you right now?
81. Setting aside your satisfaction, how do you want to pleasure me right now?
82. What position would you want me to be in while you watch me masturbate right now?
83. What sex act would you like to watch me perform for your entertainment right now?
84. Are you in the mood to be dominant or submissive right now?
85. Can I push your sexual limits right now?
86. If I wanted you to push my sexual limits, what would you do right now?
87. Right now, can I be rougher and more assertive with you sexually than I usually am?
88. What sexual activities make you feel vulnerable in a good way?
89. Will you let yourself be vulnerable with me right now?
90. Next time we have sex can we push your limit of vulnerability?
91. Next time we have sex how do you want me to demonstrate my enthusiasm?
92. Next time we have sex how do you want me to demonstrate my responsiveness?
93. Next time we have sex do you want it to be slow and intimate or fast and hard?
94. Next time we have sex do you want to role-play? If so, what kind of scenario?
95. Next time we have sex can we… (pick one from below)
96. … focus entirely on your pleasure?
97. … focus entirely on my pleasure?
98. … use a sex game for foreplay? (Ask about a specific one, or just in general.)
99. … give you multiple orgasms?
100. … tease you until you beg for an orgasm?
101. … put you in any position I want?
102. … try for an orgasm in a new position?
103. … tie you up?
104. … blindfold you?
105. … spank you?
106. … ejaculate on your face?
107. … play with or penetrate your ass?
108. … give you commands?
109. … make you ask permission to have an orgasm?
110. … (pick any of the above and reverse I/you)

Do you have any other ideas for “truths”? Share them in the comments!

(Thanks to poster “SexualTopic” for the idea (NSFW) for this post.)