Lingerie Fashion Show and Role-Playing 1

We’ve had house-guests for several days and my wife Sexy Corte has been working hard to host them; I took them to the airport very early this morning, and Sexy Corte told me that if I could do it without waking her up she’d do something “special” for me — how could I refuse an offer like that? Thusly motivated, I got our guests to the airport, sent a kid off to school, and then slipped back into bed to cuddle Sexy Corte like a ninja.

So here’s what I’m planning for our special event: a lingerie fashion show! Here are some ideas for how you can do this yourselves. The role-playing elements are optional!

This activity will require some preparation:

  • Pick a time that the wife is feeling sexy and confident with her body. This probably isn’t the best activity for right after a big meal or when recovering from an illness. You can track her cycle and plan for an evening when she’s near ovulation and likely to be at peak arousal.
  • The wife should select three to five outfits to try on. These can be lingerie, or anything she feels sexy in. The husband can pick some clothes for her also if he’s confident in what she’ll like! The husband should lay out the clothing before the activity begins so it’s ready to use.
  • The husband should wear something the wife likes him in, which for us means I’ll wear a suit or sports coat.
  • Prepare the space with low light, thumpy music, and a chair for the husband.
  • Gather whatever lube, vibrators, washcloths, and other toys you’ll need.

Scenario:

  • The wife is a lingerie Model.
  • The husband is a fashion show Director, photographer, lingerie purchaser, or some other role that leads him to direct the attire and behavior of the model.
  • The core activity of the scenario is the Model trying on various outfits while the Director watches and directs her.
  • The Director and Model can tease and stimulate each other during the show, and have sex when they just hold off any longer!

Here are some things the Model can do or say:

  • The Model’s attitude can be played in many different ways depending on your inclination. You can be shy, confident, desperate for work, eager to make a sale, chaste, or less-then-chaste.
  • Even if you’re playing shy, the Model should show off her body for the Director. You’re trying to get the job or make the sale, so you should proactively display yourself and your lingerie. Invite him to “try out” the lingerie while you’re wearing it by touching your body and teasing you.
  • Take your time getting dressed and undressed. You’ll be changing clothes several times, so have fun with it.
  • “What do you want me to try on first?”
  • “Can you help me take this off?” / “Can you help me put this on?”
  • “Do you like how I look from behind?” / “from the front?”
  • “How do you want me to stand?” / “Do you want me to kneel down?” / “Do you want me to bend over?”
  • “Do you want a closer look?”
  • Let go of your inhibitions! No one has a perfect body, but your husband thinks you’re beautiful — that’s why he wants you to model lingerie for him!

Here are some things the Director can do or say:

  • The Director’s attitude should be confident. Know what you want. Are you evaluating the Model before offering a job, or considering which lingerie to buy, or something else? Be goal-oriented and direct the Model in a way that helps you make your decision.
  • Stay fully clothed for most of the scenario, until it’s necessary for you to remove something “for testing purposes”. For example, you may need to remove your pants in order to test how accessible the Model’s body is in the lingerie.
  • “Beautiful”, “perfect”, “lovely”, “magnificent”, “graceful” — praise the Model’s beauty and physical performance. Say these things frequently throughout the show, and never be critical or demeaning. The Model is making herself physically and visually vulnerable, so be sure to praise and affirm her.
  • “Stand up”, “sit down”, “kneel”, “lie down” — tell the Model how to position her body.
  • Use your hands on the Model to position her exactly how you want. Explore her body while you’re “evaluating” each outfit.
  • Tell the Model when to change clothes.
  • “Spread your legs”, “bend over”, “get on all fours”, “arch your back” — put the Model into sexually revealing positions, with or without clothes. You’ve got to get a good look at this lingerie from every angle!

When you can’t stand the sexiness anymore, have sex! Talk about your favorite parts of the activity, and stay positive. What did you especially enjoy? Was there anything you wouldn’t choose to do again?

If you like this idea, here are a few related posts that you might enjoy:

Leave a comment and let us know how you make the most of your lingerie!

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Should I Tan My Balls? 2

Apparently ball-tanning is a thing now?

We’ve written about testicular hygiene and shaving, but the idea of tanning my balls is new to me. What’s the supposed benefit of ball-tanning?

One hypothesis is that red light helps mitochondria produce more ATP, and that this helps the Leydig cells in the testicles to produce more testosterone. Another hypothesis centers around vitamin D, which some studies have shown is low in men who also have low testosterone.

But there are problems with these ideas. To name one obvious one: vitamin D isn’t produced specifically in scrotal skin. You can increase yours by sunning any body part you choose, or simply by eating more food that contains vitamin D, such as fatty fish.

And when it comes to the effects of red light on mitochondria, this may be true—in skin cells. The testicles are internal organs, and light doesn’t penetrate skin by more than a few millimeters tops. There are light therapy treatments that work on the skin, but there’s not really a plausible way for your testes to increase their production of testosterone just because there’s light shining on the skin of the scrotum.

There probably isn’t medical benefit to sunning your balls, but it probably isn’t harmful either (as long as you avoid burns, of course) and might feel good.

The rest of the morning, my crotch felt warm. Alive. So I did it again. Glancing out my office window to make sure the lawnmower guy wasn’t tooling around in the grass, I pulled down my drawers and bathed myself in the heavenly, warm, tingly glow, this time for eight minutes.

That night, my wife and I made love. Admittedly, I felt – well – a unique heavenly, warm, tingly glow in my crotch. Nice.

Two days later, I waited until the evening, then wandered downstairs. I rubbed my hands together, took a deep breath, and flipped my JOOVV on. I called my mom to see how her day was going mom (she had no clue what was going on below the phone). Ten minutes. I read a blog post. Fifteen minutes. My crotch grew more and more warm, but in a pleasant, day-at-the-beach sort of way. I finished an email. Twenty minutes. Mission complete.

That night was date night, and I was a rock star.

So ball-tanning is probably no more silly than most other forms of home medicine! What do you think? How do you pamper your balls?

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Controlling Depth When She's On Top (Cowgirl) 3

Sexy Corte prefers to have an orgasm while she’s on top of me and we’re using a vibrator wedged between us. This cowgirl position puts her in control of most of our body motion (because I’m flat on my back) and lets me control of the vibrator. This position usually works very well for us… unless I start having trouble holding back my own orgasm. It’s less fun for everyone if I have an orgasm before she does, so I’ve learned a few techniques for controlling the depth of penetration while we’re in cowgirl position. There are many reasons to play with shallow penetration, and shallow penetration will usually help the husband hold off his orgasm longer than deep penetration.

Here are a few techniques the husband can use to control depth of penetration in the cowgirl position.

  • Lift her up by the butt. I love my wife’s butt, so my hands are often there already when she’s in cowgirl. To control depth, I’ll use my hands to hold her up and prevent her from pushing all the way down on to me. This is extra fun when it makes Sexy Corte moan in frustration while she’s trying hard to push me deeper inside.
  • Lift my leg(s) to raise her seat. Instead of leaving my legs flat on the bed, I will pull one or both of my knees up slightly to elevate my thighs. My thighs act like a seat for Sexy Corte to sit on, and the higher I lift my thighs the shallower penetration we’ll get. This technique requires less strength than lifting her butt with my hands and can be maintained indefinitely. I’ll often raise and lower my thighs several times while my wife is riding me to control the depth of penetration and hold off my own orgasm.
  • Pull her chest down to yours. Pulling your chests together will automatically reduce the depth of penetration as her pelvis rotates. Feeling your wife’s breasts against you is an added bonus!
  • Pull down on her hips. If I want to go deeper I’ll grab Sexy Corte’s hips and pull her down while I arch my back and push up into her. As you can imagine this doesn’t usually make me last longer, and I won’t do this if I’m struggling to avoid orgasm. This maneuver will often elicit a sexy moan from my wife!

And if you’re in cowgirl, here’s a post with some ideas for what to do with your hands.

Do you have any wife-on-top techniques to share? Leave a comment and let us know!

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What Do Wives Think About Giving Blowjobs? 4

In Level-Up Your Sex Life we wrote that based on the emails we receive, the top request from wives is to have more orgasms, and the top request from husbands is to get more blowjobs. We’ll write later about the joy husbands get from pleasuring their wives, but what do wives think about giving blowjobs?

Julie Sibert writes about Oral Sex and the Christian Wives Who Love Giving It.

Years ago, I was having lunch with a woman who would eventually become one of my closest friends.

At the time of our lunch all those years ago, we were new colleagues, and we soon discovered we had a plethora of things in common — our love of sex being one of them.

To say she and I had great ease in talking about sex in our marriages would be an understatement. To this day, she is a confidante who I know will always be up for a transparent and authentic conversation about sexual struggles and sexual joys.

At our first lunch together, we eventually came upon the topic of oral sex, to which I said, “Who doesn’t love oral sex?!” She looked at me quizzically and asked, “Giving or receiving?”

“BOTH,” I answered enthusiastically. She agreed.

From Men’s Health we get 17 Women on Why They Actually Love Giving Blowjobs. And check the linked Reddit thread also.

Of course, every person enjoys different things in the bedroom, and it’s impossible to make a blanket statement about whether or not women like giving blowjobs. But we can tell you this much: some women definitely enjoy performing oral sex on their partners. Just peruse the hundreds of responses to this Reddit thread, which asked: “Women who like giving blowjobs, why?”

The women who responded had a variety of reasons for their love of giving head. On a psychological level, some said they enjoyed the power of having their partner at their mercy, and being able to control their pleasure with the slightest tongue flick. On a physical level, others said they liked the taste and the feeling of a smooth penis in their mouth. And then there’s the emotional side to blowjobs: a number of respondents said they use oral sex to show their partner how much they love and appreciate them.

And finally, our commenter Maria shares her experience with her husband and gives some tips. (And read the post Maria is commenting on to to learn about What Do Wives Think of Swallowing Semen?)

When he starting ejaculating, I looked downward as a friend advised me to do this in case his load was objectionable he wouldn’t see me grimace. He enjoyed the sex, but was truly thrilled by the sucking. I thought this would be because he had no responsibility or pressure to perform during a blowjob, but his love of blowjobs has not subsided one iota in our 8 months of marriage. The first time he filled my mouth, I was truly mortified by the flavor. I swallowed like a champ, keeping my head down so he wouldn’t see the disgust on my face. Over the next month, I learned that if I keep his penis far back into my mouth, he will shoot his semen past my tastebuds and down my throat without me tasting it. I time my swallows to his spurts. I know some women who try to please their husbands by pretending that they absolutely love the taste of their semen. I think that my husband appreciates my frequent sucking and swallowing more because he knows I do not enjoy the taste of his sperm.

So wives, what do you think about giving your husband a blowjob? Do you love it, hate it, or just feel neutral? Leave a comment and let us know.

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Sex Q&A: Dominance Play, Tickling, Doggy Style Angle 5

A few questions from the mail bag.

Husband “TT” asks:

I am a 73 years old man, and my wife is 64. We have been married 8 years; my previous wife died of cancer, and my wife is divorced. Our first few years of marriage we had a great sexual relationship. We were sexually active and, in my opinion, especially so for our age. Unfortunately, we are now down to having about once per month, if that often. I recently read that sex therapists consider 10 times or less per year is a “sexless marriage” so we are in the range of now having a “sexless marriage”.

In the next two weeks, we are planning a three-day weekend retreat to review 2021 and plan for 2022 and beyond. We have periodically had retreats like this and have found them very beneficial as a couple. This year I am adding a discussion of our sexual relationship to the agenda to being this issue to the forefront for us to talk about.

With all of this as “background” information this leads me to why I am writing you.

To revitalize our sexual relationship plus, and very importantly, fulfill a many years’ fantasy of mine, at our retreat my desire is to ask my wife to do a special role play with me. The role play is for her to dominate me, i.e., for me to be submissive to her, both sexually and otherwise for a period of time (maybe a week?).

My questions for you are:
1. Am I undermining myself as the leader of our home and marriage?
2. Is being dominated by my wife an un-Christian act even as a role play for a short period of time?
3. Is there better terminology than dominate and submissive that I can use that might be less of a turn-off for her?
4. Have you ever heard of other husbands wanting this?
5. Am I being selfish asking this of my wife?

Sexy Corte responded:

I am sure that you are not alone in your desire/fantasy! El Fury and I believe that if both spouses are willing, and the act is between the husband and wife only, then it is allowed in the marriage (see: Can we *BLANK*?). I don’t believe that you are undermining your role as a husband, or that it is un-Christian. However, I would advise against anything that would violate your conscience, or the conscience of your wife. It sounds like you already plan on communicating with your wife. God gave us a lot of freedom within the boundaries of marriage, and our belief is that sex that brings intimacy is honoring to marriage and to God.

Let us know how it goes!

To which “TT” replied:

Thank you for your comments/words of support to my situation.  It would have been very easy for you to have just “shut me down” and/or rebuked me for my different desires.

Let me bring you update as to what happened when I proposed this on our retreat weekend.  First, yes, I did propose the idea to my wife as a “role-play”; in other words, I didn’t wimp out and not say anything.  I had not mentioned in my email that she has an acting background; consequently, she has previously enjoyed acting out a sexy scenario and always put a lot of energy into her particular role.  And, always with wonderful results.  This time, she didn’t shy away from my proposal but neither did she embrace it. She agreed to try it and we started on a Saturday morning and ended on Sunday afternoon.  It was easy for her to be demanding/controlling; it fit her basic personality.  I was obedient and did what I was instructed to do; always answering her “Yes, ma’am”.  The commands ranged from making the bed to helping cook dinner.  For me it was extremely exotic to be obedient to her and, when we made love on Sunday night, it was beyond wonderful. However, her only comment was “this is a little weird”.

Since it ended neither of us have mentioned it, but I plan to propose it again soon.

Good for “TT” and his wife for trying something “a little weird” and having fun.

Husband “RC” writes:

I find bondage with tickling very arousing. My wife, like most people, hates being tickled. I also hate being tickled, however as my wife and I have explored bondage more over the past year, she now finds tying me up and tickling me quite arousing.

This is both good and bad as you can imagine.

Have you guys ever explored this sort of thing? What was the result? If it was something your spouse didn’t want to do, but you were none the less highly aroused by it, would you just give up and stop asking because you already know it’s not pleasant for her/him?

As a Christian I’ve always felt kind of ashamed and a bit of a weirdo for wanting to try this.

To which El Fury replied:

Sexy Corte hates being tickled. I enjoy tickling but not being tickled. So… this isn’t something we’ve tried, but I’d like to tie Sexy Corte up and tickle her if she’d let me.

The next two emails are some husbands with questions about doggy style. Husband “JA” writes:

My question is spurred by your Christmas Eve sex post. We’ve not really been successful in the dozen or so attempts of “from behind” positions over the years. When my wife starts on all fours she eventually drops her hips and ends up more prone as she says the angle isn’t right. I’ve not pushed it (nor do I intend to now), but she recently was open to trying with the liberator ramp and wedge we have.

Some possible complicating factors include our height difference (I’m of average American male height and she’s about 5′-0″) and my erection angle/inflexibility. When I’m erect, my penis is about 15-20° from my belly (which is relatively vertical, I’m not overweight). At about straight out it becomes uncomfortable and would certainly exert some vertical force if we managed to get into the position.

Do you have any tips to ease into doggy style? Do you notice a certain part of her cycle is better for behind positions? My wife certainly prefers on top before ovulation and me on top after ovulation.

With a similar question, Husband “GS” writes:

I have a practical question for you, sir: I have a very straight-up and firm erection with some ability to bend back down but not a lot, probably a little less than 45 degrees back down. Obviously, this does have its benefits because of the firmness, and I believe it has been a part of helping my wife have orgasms probably 95% of the time throughout our marriage. But, it’s not too flexible. My wife and I usually do positions that are parallel, slight variations of missionary and also she on top facing me, which are all totally fine. She has an amazing behind, but with my erection angle (and average penis length), it’s difficult to enter her from behind. Are there any other positions, types of positions, or any tips you would recommend for intercourse with my angle and firmness? (This would be advice about intercourse, not alternatives like oral.)

To these emails El Fury replied:

We have written quite a bit about doggy style position, so I suggest you start with some of these posts. Given your anatomy, your wife may need to hold herself more upright in order to make doggy style work for you. There are lot of other rear-entry variations that you may enjoy, and it sounds like jockey position might be well-suited for you.

You should also check out this post about arching your back — but you’ll want your wife to round her back rather than arching it, in order to put her vagina at a more comfortable angle for you.

Because of the depth of penetration with doggy style, Sexy Corte prefers to move into this position after she has an orgasm. Some people don’t realize this, but vaginas elongate during arousal; deep penetration will be more comfortable the more aroused the wife is.

“GS” continued with some wonderful aspirations his sex life with his wife.

On another note, I recently discovered your podcast and site because, at 39 and after fourteen years of marriage (on January 5 this year), I want to pour into the parts of my life that are the most meaningful instead of superfluous things, and at the top of my list is me and my wife’s sex life: to deepen it, to be adventurous, to be a student of her body, to help make it our favorite hobby, and to finally be bold in talking about the sex we have. (E.g. I absolutely love using our hands, but we’ve only ever done that once to orgasm.) We haven’t been open very often over the years; I lack confidence in asserting my suggestions, and she’s the kind of woman who enjoys predictability. Our sex has been extremely good and has gotten better with age, but, like with my wife’s personality, it’s predictable (even as much as I enjoy it 99.99% of the time).

Last week, I told her that I’d love to finally talk more openly about our sex life, and she was excited and totally on board! I’m hopeful that she wants to explore in ways that I do and be adventurous and attentive to each other’s bodies in ways that God designed them to be to enjoy sex on an intense level. We’re going to begin talking on our anniversary on Wednesday, so any prayers you and Sexy Corte can offer for a couple you’ve never interacted with, I would gladly accept! Prayers for a fun, relaxing, honest conversation where she feels desired by me (and me desired by her), that she understands I want to drive her crazy in a godly way, and that it’s a conversation we both want to continue as immediately as possible. (I will recommend this site to her, but I don’t think she’s comfortable with how explicit it is yet; a lot of the terminology and techniques aren’t in our sexy vocabulary. Perhaps over time! I’m thinking of suggesting the latest podcast episode as a great lead-in to the rest of the site.)

We definitely prayed for “GS” and his wife! We always pray for the people who write to us, and we’re always excited to hear about how God is working in the lives of our readers.

Please use the contact pages for Sexy Corte and El Fury to send us your questions. We will never reveal your name or any other identifying information.

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Being Present in the Moment with Orgasmic Meditation: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/mental-techniques/present-moment-orgasmic-meditation/

Thumb and Finger Zoom Technique: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/thumb-and-finger-zoom-technique/

How to Rub a Clitoris: Pulling Back the Curtain: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/how-to-rub-a-clitoris-pulling-back-the-curtain/

“The Male Clitoris”: Frenulum Technique: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/the-male-clitoris-frenulum-technique/

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Being Present in the Moment with Orgasmic Meditation 6

“The Future is, of all things, the thing least like eternity. It is the most temporal part of time–for the Past is frozen and no longer flows, and the Present is all lit up with eternal rays.” — C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

It’s hard to be in the present. We spend most of our time worrying about the future or re-living the past, but the present is hard to grasp. We’ve written before about the importance of making time and energy for sex, but do you ever get distracted when you’re actually doing it? Are you able to be wholly present in the experience with your spouse?

If you’d like to be more present and mindful during sex then you might want to try orgasmic meditation (or “OM”). This post will focus on wives and their orgasms, like most research into OM, but there’s no reason that similar techniques can’t be applied to husbands also.

To get started, you may want to check out this 15-minute TEDx presentation by Nicole Daedone. Her tagline for a woman who feels empty or disconnected from her husband is: “try orgasm”. Take a few minutes to watch it with your spouse.

(It’s worth noting that OneTaste, Daedone’s company, doesn’t have a great reputation. For this post we’re going to discuss the practice of OM, and hope that none of our readers are foolish enough to join a sex cult or pay anyone for sexual services.)

So what is orgasmic meditation? The practice is physically very simple.

For the uninitiated, it’s a partnered experience of stroking around the clitoris for 15 minutes, with only one goal: let go and feel.

The stroking is meant to happen in an incredibly specific way — on the upper-left quadrant of the clitoris in an up-and-down motion, no firmer than you would stroke an eyelid.

[Anjuli Ayer, CEO of Institute of OM] also considers OM a goal-less practice. “The intention is not to serve as foreplay or to get the participants to orgasm.” That’s right, while the practice has orgasm in the name, orgasming isn’t the goal. Rather, it’s to bring your attention to the present moment and experience pleasure.

The Institute of OM charges almost $200 for a single class, but Christian wives have a more affordable alternative: their husband. Here are the basic steps:

  1. Prepare your space. OM requires 15 minutes with no interruptions, so lock your door and tell the kids not to bother you. Your bed is a great place for OM, but you could use a couch or other comfortable place. You should also get some lube and a minute timer.
  2. Prepare yourselves. The wife should take off her clothes, lie down, and spread her legs with her knees up and her feet down. The husband is recommended to position himself in a very specific way: he should sit on his wife’s right side, with his left leg over her tummy and his right leg under her knees. This position should prop the wife’s knees up and give the husband easy access to her clitoris. Finally, both spouses should commit themselves to the experience and to each other for the duration of the meditation, and focus on the experience at hand (ahem). Pray for intimacy and pleasure.
  3. Begin stroking. Set the timer for 13 minutes and start it. The husband should put lube on his fingers, specifically on his right thumb and left index finger. Next, the husband should insert his right thumb slightly into the wife’s vagina. Then the husband should use his left index finger to begin gently stroking the upper-left of the wife’s clitoris, pulling back the clitoral hood if necessary. The stroke should be light and slow, and approximately half-an-inch in length. (Related: zoom technique and how to rub a clitoris.)
  4. Guide your husband. The wife should tell her husband if she wants him to change his stroking pattern: faster, slower, harder, softer, etc. Despite the name, orgasmic meditation doesn’t have the goal of orgasm. Like Ayer said in the quote above, the purpose of OM is to help you focus on the present and on intimacy with your spouse. If the wife wants to have an orgasm during OM then go for it, but wives, don’t decline OM just because you don’t want an orgasm. Does that make sense?
  5. Grounding. When the timer goes off (after 13 minutes) you should take some time to ground yourselves before separating or continuing on to sex. The husband should change his stroking pattern to a downward motion for a minute or so, and then use both hands embrace his wife’s vulva. This “hug” should continue until the wife releases and deep breath and is ready to be done. Pray and thank God for the intimacy and pleasure you just experienced together.

It’s important to note that OM isn’t intended to be foreplay. You can certainly have sex afterwards if you want to, but the purpose of OM is to promote awareness and intimacy.

In order to reverse this experience and focus on the husband, use the same basic instructions as above but substitute his frenulum for the wife’s clitoris. The wife can use a lubed finger or her tongue to stimulate her husband’s frenulum, or even take the head of his penis into her mouth. The key is the soft repetitive motion, so the approach is going to be very different than a hand job or a blowjob.

If you’re up for an intimacy challenge, consider performing OM together every day for a week, or even a month. At 15 minutes per session, you and your spouse can both OM in the same amount of time it takes to watch a TV show!

Have you ever tried OM before, or anything like it? Leave a comment and let us know what you think.

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Testosterone Affects Women Too 7

Everyone knows that testosterone has a significant effect on men, but many people don’t realize that T levels affect women also. Most women have probably never had their testosterone measured during a routine blood test.

As the primary male sex hormone, it plays a leading role in the sexual development of guys. But folks often overlook the role it plays in female sexuality. Yes, women have testosterone, too, though much less of it — and it exerts a far different pull, new research suggests.

“It was quite surprising that the link with masturbation was stronger among women than men,” said study leader Wendy Macdowall of the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, in the United Kingdom. “And that among women we saw no link with aspects of partnered sex.”

[Women] with high testosterone were more likely to have had a same-sex relationship at some point. They also masturbated more often — and more recently.

High T was also linked to more solo sex for guys. But the masturbation connection was notably stronger among women, the study found.

Do high T levels cause a woman to masturbate, or vice versa? Unknown. The researchers suggest that masturbation is a “truer” measure measure of sexual desire than sex with a partner, because it’s less likely to be initiated by someone else. This suggests that higher T levels can increase a woman’s libido.

The Mayo Clinic says that the evidence in favor of testosterone supplementation for women for the purpose of increasing libido is limited, so it’s not clear if there’s any clear way to act on the research findings above. For women, it might be worth getting your testosterone checked when you have your next routine blood test.

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1d20 Kiss and Strip Game 8

This is the game that Sexy Corte and I played on Christmas Eve. All you need is a 1d20 die.

The premise behind the game is simple:

  • Take turns rolling the die. The value of the roll determines how high up on your body the action will happen. Low values are towards your feet, and high values are towards your head.
  • If you roll an even number: your spouse removes a piece of your clothing at the indicated location. If there’s no clothing there, remove the next closest piece.
  • If you roll an odd number: your spouse kisses you at the indicated location.

You can estimate the body height on your own, but this table might be helpful.

  • 1-2: Feet.
  • 3-4: Lower legs, knees, calves.
  • 5-6: Upper legs, thighs.
  • 7-8: Waist, hips, inner thighs, butt.
  • 9-10: All the fun bits: balls, penis, inner thighs, vulva, butt.
  • 11-12: Waist, stomach, lower back.
  • 13-14: Hands, arms, shoulders.
  • 15-16: Chest, breasts, back.
  • 17-18: Face, mouth, lips, tongue.
  • 19-20: Head, hair, face, eyes.

Take turns rolling, undressing, and kissing. When you’re both naked, have sex.

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Intimacy While Sick, Part 3 9

(Part 1, Part 2)

After getting a fever four days ago and testing positive for COVID three days ago, I think my condition is finally starting to improve. My terrible sore throat is waning and my nasal congestion is waxing, which I think is a good sign. Sexy Corte is still uncomfortable and coughing a lot, for going on three weeks now.

One thing we’ve realized through this period of illness is that being sick affects our libidos very differently. When Sexy Corte is sick her libido goes into hibernation, but being sick doesn’t lessen my libido much at all. The medicine I take (especially pseudoephedrine) might make it difficult to get or maintain an erection, but it’s not for lack of desire.

For me, tender and nurturing sex is very comforting when I’m sick. Two days ago we were able to do a very vanilla wife-on-top encounter that was wonderfully intimate despite our sicknesses. We both orgasmed and then we cuddled for a while with Sexy Corte laying on top of me. It was really nice, even though we’re not kissing again for fear of additional infection.

Many people crave sexual novelty, excitement, and adventure, but don’t miss out on the blessing of sex that is healing and nurturing.

Update:

Commenter “Andrew DEDMAN” says:

What is wrong with you. Intimincy isn’t it a given . we don’t have to have realtions on a calender.

I’m not entirely sure what this comment means, but I’ll try to address it anyway.

Intimacy in marriage isn’t a given — it takes work and investment, even when times are tough. “In sickness and in health.” We’ve decided to cultivate a habit of daily sex in our marriage. We don’t have sex every single day, but when we don’t have sex it’s because we’ve decided not to. We expect to have sex every day.

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