How to Spank Your Wife

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Should you spank your wife?  Of course!  I highly recommend it.  Sex starts long before penetration, and spanking is a fun way to build sexual tension. Spanking is a power move, a move of possession, and a not-so-subtle way for you as the husband to prime the sexual pump and set expectations.  A smack on the ass says you are my woman, prepare to be boarded.

So how to do it right?

  • I love to pat Sexy Corte’s butt whenever it is in reach.  She has a fantastic rear, and I feel like it deserves to be touched and admired. These love-taps are pretty expected by now, to the point where I sometimes catch myself doing them in public.  Haven’t had a complaint yet!
  • When there’s time for a kiss, you can escalate with a spank.  This always gets a friendly wiggle and purr.  Feel free to grab a cheek while you’re down there if the kiss lingers.
  • If you really want to get your wife’s attention, spank her a bit harder so she jumps and lets out an “oh!”  If she turns back to you with a how dare you look (real or pretend) just smile and say something naughty.  “I have got to have that ass later tonight.”
  • And don’t forget to celebrate Spanksgiving!

Spanking as foreplay works great, especially when it’s an unexpected surprise.  Spanking is also a great accent move for when you’re having sex, but it doesn’t work in Missionary Position.  Here are some ideas:

  • Wife on top.  No matter which way she’s facing you should be able to work in a few spanks just as she’s reaching orgasm.
  • Doggy-style gives you clear access to your target, and this is already a powerful position for the husband. Avoid the temptation to go overboard.
  • Wife standing, bent over.  This position is great for quickies, and a spank is great for getting a reaction if your wife is trying to be quiet because you’re being naughty in a semi-public place.

Arousal and orgasm generally increase a woman’s pain threshold, and she might enjoy a little more force when you’re in the throes of passion.  As always, communicate.

Do you and your spouse spank?  Got any tips to share?

Update, this evening:

After getting the kids out of the tub, Sexy Corte caught me in our room getting ready to shower.  She said “how about a quickie?” so I laid on the floor and she started riding me.  She must have liked this post because she said, “Don’t forget to spank me!”  Solid.

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  1. My wife is not switched on by spanking I realised, but I am. Tips on spanking are go for the lower half of the buttocks and maybe a little bit on tops of the thighs. Be led by the spankee as to how hard. Keep mainly to the cheeks. Warm up gently with the hand until the spankee asks for it a bit harder. If your hand usually hurts switch to a light leather paddle or light paddle brush. Really for success listen to the spankee.

    1. Good tips. If your wife isn’t that “into it”, how did you two get started? How often is it a part of your sexual routine? Does your wife tolerate it for your enjoyment, or has she come to enjoy it?

      1. We are a couple in our late fortys and have in the last couple of years discovered the joys and imence pleasure of spanking. I am the spanker and my wife the spankee. It’s a totally erotic thing, purely sexual and senseual and combined with loving caressing touching it has become a regular item on our menu. But mostly when we are away from home because of noise and kids. But great hotel sex.

      2. Sorry I didn’t see your question a little bit over a year ago. We got started because I always had a draw to it. I don’t know why. Sometimes my mind wandered out of the marriage towards adverts in a paper about spanking. I knew this was wrong and that it would be better if my wife actually did it so one day I asked her and she did it to my amazement. She has divulged since that she is comfortable with it, so it works very well in our marriage and I am no longer tempted to look at stuff. I am very grateful to her and it makes me feel very close to her.

        1. Marraige is great and long but my more religious and moral wife has paddled my naked butt every so often for too much drinking and carousing with my guy friends—No argument fro me i got it coming Its bare assed and it hurts like crazy!

          1. It doesn’t have to be like that. It’s just play and pleasure for me. I don’t normally like the expression of dom and sub personally.

  2. Surely you should ask her first. I hate being spanked and thankfully my husband has never shown any inclination to do it. If she likes it, great, but ASK her. For me, it’s a definite turn off.

  3. Of course a wife should be asked if she wants it. That is common sense. There’s nothing worse than a husband using his wife against her will. You gather I don’t believe in domestic discipline although some wives want this. I think it is probably a kind of game. For it to be real discipline doesn’t sit with marriage for me. She is not a child. Keeping it as sex makes much more sense for me. I did gently try it on my wife to see if she liked it but I discerned that it is not her thing. I would only get pleasure from it if she liked it (as I do) and not just putting up with it.

  4. The reason I write this is because of the use of hard and heavy instruments for spanking. If the sensation is too chocking it tends to result in blocking the memory of it and there you are; the effect is questionable.

    Here is a little information about this birch bundle made from very thin ends of twigs. If you use this bundle you´ve got a form of correction which gives an intense pain but it nevertheless leaves no marks that don´t disappear in about one day.You don´t have to use much force here – it isn´t neccesary, the pain builds up slowly and you can keep up the good work for half an hour for a lasting impression in your wife´s mind. This isn´t cruel at all compared to using a cane which you can use only a very short time and therefore that doesn´t cause the lasting memory effect you want to achieve.
    Have in mind that this birch branch bundle dries very quickly. You can easily soften it by putting it into a big ceramic bowl or anything with hot water. It then becomes as good as new and fresh. I think that these implements that are mentioned here very often are too harsh and nearly cruel! With this natural, silent and free tool one makes the dear wife´s behind get this neccessary, intense pain without bruises and scars.
    I strongly recommend a bundle of about ten, very thin branches from a birch tree, for example! A proper length can be about one foot two.It should look like this, without any buds and perhaps with even thinner ends of the twigs:

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    No noise at all, (at least from the tool), and very effective but still harmless.
    You can normally start up with 20 to 30 slaps with open hand and then use this bundle! If you want to be very silent you of course use this method immediately,
    It is a very mild form of spanking at the beginning but after about 50 lashes it makes a sharp, stinging feeling that can not be ignored.Then you pause for a minute or two and then continue. All of this can and should be done several times but of course it is up to yourselves. Do not forget, during a maintenance spanking, to communicate with caresses and hugs. We love our wives, don´t we!

  5. My wife loves to be spanked as foreplay, but especially interesting is that she likes it to start as “discipline.” She likes me to cite some relatively minor but real infraction–being late, for instance–and to scold her about it and put her over my knee and unveil her bare bottom. About a dozen smacks with my hand and she is ready for sex! She also likes to be spanked when I am inside her from behind.

    She does not like to be spanked “for real,” and does not like the issue I choose to be a significant one (that spanking is clearly not going to settle). We actually met on a dating site that was for Christian singles into domestic discipline, but we don’t really practice DD. Instead, spanking has become foreplay for us.

  6. Her first spanking went like this. She tells me she was bad and spent to much money. Then immediately says she needs spanked. Telling her to raise her gown & lower her panty, I put her over my knee. Lightly spanked her. Ask she whimpered witha smile, she asked for more. Well, more ended up in her bissful job. As well as my needs getting attention.

  7. My wife is bigger, stronger & more dominant than I am. On our wedding night, after she showered & I showered, we made it to our hotel bed. I put her over my knee, telling her she was a naughty little girl who needs direction & I’m the man to do it. Then, she turned the tables on me, & I found myself over her knee, & said that’s interesting, from where I’m sitting, you don’t look like the man, to do it, you look like the naughty little boy over his mama’s knee, getting his well deserved spanking. I think I’ll need lots of practice, incase we have naughty little boys. Oh, by the way, you can call me mommy when getting future spankings from me. Now, lets tan that naked little hiney, mommy style. Oh, no, I’ve created a monster!

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