We’ve written that For Female Arousal, Excitement Is Better than Relaxation, and what’s more exciting than being chased around the house naked? Here are some ideas for including sexual prizes and penalties when you play tag with your spouse. You’re going to need some space to run around!
In this post we’re going to use these two terms:
“It” — the spouse doing the chasing.
“NotIt” — the spouse who is trying to avoid being caught.
As you’d expect for tag, after It catches NotIt they swap roles and the new It tries to catch the new NotIt. We suggest also using a time limit for each round that forces you to swap roles even if It hasn’t caught NotIt. Before we get into the details here’s an important note: It gets a prize for catching NotIt, and a penalty to make it harder for the same spouse to keep winning over and over again. The penalty is important because the game could get frustrating and tedious if one spouse is much more athletic than the other and keeps winning.
Here are some prizes that It can receive after catching NotIt. Probably nothing too surprising here!
NotIt removes a piece of clothing.
NotIt removes a piece of It’s clothing.
NotIt does a sexy dance.
NotIt stimulates It with hands or mouth.
It tickles NotIt.
It spanks NotIt (or vice versa).
NotIt stimulates himself or herself while It watches.
NotIt describes a sexual fantasy.
NotIt kisses and licks It’s body.
It draws or writes something naughty on NotIt’s body.
It pleasures himself or herself with NotIt’s body. (But don’t finish unless you want the game to be over!)
It teases and edges NotIt without delivering an orgasm (yet).
Here are some ideas for penalties that can be applied to the winner of the round — that is, the winner gets a penalty to make it harder to win again. The penalties can keep stacking each time a person wins, or you can decide to remove the penalty when the person loses a round — it’s up to you. Got it?
Put on one or two socks. If you’re chasing each other around on hardwood floors, like we are, then wearing a sock or two will really make you slip and slide.
Hold one or two hands behind your back while you run. Use handcuffs if desired.
Carry your spouse’s removed clothing in your arms. This penalty works well because every time you catch your spouse you’ll end up with one more thing to carry, which will slow you down a little.
Pull your panties or underwear down around one or two ankles.
Keep one hand on your breasts or genitals while you run.
Hold a vibrator on your clitoris while you run.
Wear a blindfold over one (or two?) eyes.
It gets a nerf gun or bow-and-arrow to help catch NotIt.
You are only allowed to: hop, skip, jump, or fast-walk (pick one).
Carry a sex toy or other object between your knees, thighs, feet, or under your chin.
Remember: tag is fun when It eventually catches NotIt — that’s why we have the penalties described above. If one person keeps winning, just keep adding penalties until the other spouse wins!
And, of course, when you’re tired of running around go have sex.
Here’s an easy foreplay idea that can pay off all day long.
Get a non-toxic marker.
Husband, get an erection.
Wife, take your husband as deep into your mouth as you can.
Husband, use the marker to draw a line on your penis to mark the depth.
The husband will remember the experience for as long as the mark lasts on his penis. The mark from a non-toxic watercolor marker will probably wash off in the shower, but that’s ok, it’s easy enough to measure and mark again.
If you want to make a game of it, the wife can challenge herself to keep beating her record over the course of the day, leaving a series of memorable stripes for her husband to enjoy. At the end of the day, consider using henna to make a long-lasting mark to commemorate the wife’s accomplishment. And, of course, make sure the wife is suitably rewarded for her effort and determination!
The “Genie in a Bottle” game is inspired by the Christina Aguilera song by the same name, whose lyrics include:
If you wanna be with me baby there’s a price to pay I’m a genie in a bottle You gotta rub me the right way If you wanna be with me I can make your wish come true You gotta make a big impression Gotta like what you do
The premise of the game is simple:
The husband rubs his wife’s lamp “the right way”.
The wife grants her husband three wishes.
(Of course, the game works just as well if the wife rubs her husband’s lamp, and the husband grants his wife three wishes!)
Here are a few suggestions for making the game as fun as possible.
The wishes should be generally proportional to the rubbing that earned them — probably something like two sexy favors and one orgasm. The genie shouldn’t be stingy, and the wisher shouldn’t annoy or impose. Communicate!
The wishes should be sexual — don’t wish for your husband to do the dishes.
The wishes don’t need to be requested all at once, and the wisher can carry the lamp around to summon the genie when desired.
Use a magic lamp prop ($10 on Amazon) to signal to your spouse that you want to play — invite the wisher to rub it and summon the genie.
Set the mood with a genie costume, lingerie, jewelry, makeup, music, and incense.
Wisher says, “Genie, I wish for you to XYZ!”
Genie says, “Your wish is my command, Master!”
Got any tips for making the game more fun? Leave a comment and share your ideas!
Truth-or-Dare can be a lot of fun, but when you’ve been married for a few years — and maybe have kids in the house — it might start to feel like there aren’t any interesting “dares” left! So here’s a long list of dares that are intended to evoke the embarrassment/challenging tone of truth-or-dare even for couples that have been married for a while and may not be able to play outside their bedroom. (Check out this earlier post for a list of truth-or-dare “truths” for married couples.)
This page generates random sexual “truths” and “dares” written for married couples. Reload the page for new options! (Note: Some dares are specifically for a husband or wife, so reload if you get a mismatch.)
Truth-or-dare can be tons of fun, but after you’ve been married for a few years it might start to feel like there aren’t any interesting “truths” left! So instead of asking about the past, here are some ideas for sexual truths that are focused on the present, and that have answers that may change over time. These truths are intended to be evergreen topics that evoke the embarrassment/confessional tone of truth-or-dare questions even for couples that have been married for a while. Hopefully they’re challenging enough to balance with the sexual dares that come easily to mind.
Are you looking for a fun gift idea for your spouse? Surprise them with a sexy scavenger hunt! I recently created this for El Fury’s Christmas present, but it can work for birthdays or any other occasion you want to make your spouse feel loved. I will describe what I did, but there are endless variations, so make it your own and tailor it to your spouse’s interests.
The preparation required three steps. First, I ordered a three gifts to make the scavenger hunt an experience — Bailey’s Irish Cream, lingerie, and a book of sexy games. Second, I wrote some riddles whose solutions would direct El Fury around the house looking for these gifts. Third, on the day of the hunt I hid the gifts and the clues around the house while El Fury was distracted. At the last moment before we left for dinner I set the first clue on the counter so he would see it right away when we got home.
The first clue explained the rules and directed El Fury to the first present, the bottle of Bailey’s. He took the hint and we poured ourselves a tasty beverage to enjoy for the rest of the hunt. I made sure to alternate gifts with sexy acts, and the second riddle led El Fury to remove his pants so I could perform oral on him for a few minutes while he sipped his Bailey’s. The third riddle led him to the sexy lingerie, and he enjoyed watching me put it on right away. Make sure that you’re building arousal as your sexy scavenger hunt proceeds! The fourth clue directed us to engage in three minutes of foreplay, which was pretty easy since I was wearing lingerie and he had no pants on. Riddle number five led us upstairs where El Fury (eventually) found the book of sex games. We picked a game to play, made love, and then finished off the scavenger hunt with a special dessert.
El Fury was very excited to go on a sexy scavenger hunt, and felt loved that I had put thought into creating a sexy experience for us. He especially loves when I pre-meditate our intimate times together because he knows that I’m thinking about him in that way. Has anyone else tried a sexy scavenger hunt? Do you have have ideas to add?