Sexy Corte prefers to have an orgasm while she’s on top of me and we’re using a vibrator wedged between us. This cowgirl position puts her in control of most of our body motion (because I’m flat on my back) and lets me control of the vibrator. This position usually works very well for us… unless I start having trouble holding back my own orgasm. It’s less fun for everyone if I have an orgasm before she does, so I’ve learned a few techniques for controlling the depth of penetration while we’re in cowgirl position. There are many reasons to play with shallow penetration, and shallow penetration will usually help the husband hold off his orgasm longer than deep penetration.
Here are a few techniques the husband can use to control depth of penetration in the cowgirl position.
- Lift her up by the butt. I love my wife’s butt, so my hands are often there already when she’s in cowgirl. To control depth, I’ll use my hands to hold her up and prevent her from pushing all the way down on to me. This is extra fun when it makes Sexy Corte moan in frustration while she’s trying hard to push me deeper inside.
- Lift my leg(s) to raise her seat. Instead of leaving my legs flat on the bed, I will pull one or both of my knees up slightly to elevate my thighs. My thighs act like a seat for Sexy Corte to sit on, and the higher I lift my thighs the shallower penetration we’ll get. This technique requires less strength than lifting her butt with my hands and can be maintained indefinitely. I’ll often raise and lower my thighs several times while my wife is riding me to control the depth of penetration and hold off my own orgasm.
- Pull her chest down to yours. Pulling your chests together will automatically reduce the depth of penetration as her pelvis rotates. Feeling your wife’s breasts against you is an added bonus!
- Pull down on her hips. If I want to go deeper I’ll grab Sexy Corte’s hips and pull her down while I arch my back and push up into her. As you can imagine this doesn’t usually make me last longer, and I won’t do this if I’m struggling to avoid orgasm. This maneuver will often elicit a sexy moan from my wife!
And if you’re in cowgirl, here’s a post with some ideas for what to do with your hands.
Do you have any wife-on-top techniques to share? Leave a comment and let us know!
Great tips. Quite timely too as my wife and I are trying to incorporate more WOT into our marriage bed as she likes the intimacy. The issue we are having is that the feeling of not being in control coupled with the gorgeous visuals makes it very difficult for me to hold back my orgasm. These techniques could prove quite useful.
My wife needs simultaneous clitoral stimulation from a hand or vibrator in order to orgasm during intercourse. So far the only way we have accomplished that is in rear entry where I can control my orgasm better as well as reach around and manually stimulate the clitoris.
I have been pondering the possibilities for helping her orgasm in WOT before I lose control. I am wondering if a possible way forward is to get her almost to orgasm manually then switch to WOT and apply the vibrator so that I don’t need to hold out as long.
Have you guys experimented with the amount of foreplay/SC’s arousal level before starting WOT? In your experience would something like what I suggested above work?*
*I know every couple is unique and different but I am curious as to your thoughts.
Same for Sexy Corte. We wedge a bullet vibrator against her clitoris while she’s on top and it works very well. This is her preferred way to orgasm.
Yes, we very commonly switch positions. SC prefers to orgasm in cowgirl with the vibrator, but we’ll often start and end in different positions.