OMGYes has released a Pleasure Report that describes four penetration techniques that are reported to be the most pleasurable for most women.
“We asked thousands of women what they do to experience more pleasure from penetrative sex and found there are four techniques that work for most women,” says sexual and reproductive health scientist, Christiana von Hippel.
Dubbed Angling, Rocking, Shallowing, and Pairing, they stand out from suggestions provided by other scientific studies that tend to scaffold pleasure around specific sexual acts, or the involvement of specific objects or body parts.
Sounds super-scientific! I bet these techniques are going to blow our minds.
For example, 87.5 percent of the respondents claimed Angling did it for them – rotating or elevating the pelvis just right to find a position where the toy, penis, or digits touch just right.
So… find the most pleasurable angle for penetration. Genius.
Around three quarters of those surveyed advocated Rocking, an action defined by movements that help the base of the penis or toy rub consistently against the clitoris during penetration.
Stimulate the clitoris. Wow, thanks science!
About 84 percent of those in the study enjoy a penetrative touch towards the outside of the vagina, dubbed Shallowing.
Ok, Shallowing might be a little less obvious that the first two ideas. We wrote about this technique here: When It Goes In — Shallow Penetration. Most of the nerve endings in the vagina are near the entrance, so it can feel pretty great for the husband to slide the head of his penis in and out at a shallow depth — and it might help the husband delay his own orgasm longer if the full shaft of his penis isn’t being stimulated.
Lastly, there’s also Pairing activity: Just under 70 percent of survey participants claimed they thoroughly enjoyed having their clitoris stimulated with a toy or finger while being penetrated.
Pairing might seem obvious, but it actually took me and Sexy Corte about a year to figure it out after we got married. Now, our go-to position when she wants an orgasm is for her to sit on top of me while I hold an egg vibrator wedged between us against her clitoris. She is practicing to orgasm in other positions, but this is the easiest for her by far.
Research like this can be valuable for guiding sexual exploration in your marriage, but in the end each couple will need to discover what feels good to them. Play around and try new things! You never know what you might like until you try it.
Were there any sexual techniques that took you a while to discover? Leave us a comment and help out the rest of us!
My wife and I don’t have penetrative sex any more for some reasons I partly understand and partly don’t. However every week she brings me to orgasm stroking my frenulum with her fingers and generally my penis very lightly. I can’t really complain.because physically it feels better and lasts longer than penetrative sex ever did. I think you have a post about it but I highly recommend it.
Hey David, we’ve written about the frenulum but we’ve never taken the time for me to actually reach orgasm that way. How long does it take you?
Pairing is an excellent technique, especially for couples where the wife does not orgasm from intercourse alone.
You mentioned WOT but doggy style is also excellent for this technique. It can be quite easy for the husband to reach around and stimulate the clitoris with fingers or a vibrator. The clitoris can also be more prominent in this position and thus easier to feel.
Not all body shapes and combinations work for this–the husband stimulating the wife in rear entry with a vibrator. Despite that, doggy style with a vibe can still work because the wife herself can wield the vibrator. Of course, that then requires the wife be one that can self stimulate to O (some can’t, including Sexy Corte IIRC).
We’re working on this technique, but it’s not the easiest. It takes SC more effort, for sure.
If your arms are long enough!
We’ve been trying doggy style with SC holding the vibrator, and it’s “ok” but not great. We’re working on it.