Doggy style — or “rear entry”, or sometimes “doggie style” — is one of the most popular and common sexual positions. According to Jay Dee’s (unscientific) reader survey of sexual positions doggy style is basically tied as one of the top three positions along with missionary (basic man-on-top) and cowgirl (basic woman-on-top). In fact, wives as a group appear to prefer doggy style to cowgirl!
Doggy style has a few distinctive benefits that make it a fun part of your repertoire:
- Depth. Doggy style is the best position for maximum penetration. Depth feels awesome for the husband, but make sure to take things slowly so the wife is comfortable. The penis will tend to rub most strongly against the posterior wall of the vagina, which creates a different sensation for the wife than in a face-to-face position.
- Dominance. Doggy style is a dominant position for the husband, and it makes him feel like a king; a wife who enjoys a submissive posture will like the position for the same reason.
- Tightness. Depending on the variation used (see more below), doggy style can provide a very tight experience for husband and wife. Another reason to take it slow.
- Visual. For a husband who likes his wife’s butt the view is amazing, second perhaps only to reverse cowgirl.
- Comfort. Studies show that doggy style can be one of the safest and most comfortable sexual positions for men with back pain.
- Bonus activities. Doggy style also enables a few bonus activities such as spanking, hip grabbing, and back and butt massage. The wife or husband can also reach underneath to play with the wife’s clit or the husband’s balls.
So what kind of variations are there?
- Standard doggy style. The wife gets down on her hands and knees and the husband enters her from behind, either standing or kneeling. All the variations build on this basic configuration.
- Leapfrog. Instead of being on her hands, the wife rests on her forearms, or elbows, or lowers her head to the floor. This variation changes the angle of penetration and increases tightness.
- Arms restrained. Similar to leapfrog, but the wife’s arms are pulled up behind her back, creating an even more submissive posture. The husband can hold her hands (increasing intimacy) or her hands can be bound.
- Jockey. The wife lays down on her stomach, possibly with a pillow under her hips for positioning; the husband lays on top of her and enters from behind. Jockey could be considered its own position rather than a variation on doggy style, but it’s part of the same family. Penetration won’t be nearly as deep as with standard doggy style, but there’s a ton of skin-to-skin contact which feels awesome, and lots of tightness if the wife keeps her legs together.
- Over the Desk. This variation has the wife standing up and bent over a desk (or couch, or rock, or tree, or whatever). Perfect for times when you can’t get naked (like in public places).
- The Magic Corner. The wife straddles and bends over the corner of the bed, supporting her weight. She can stimulating her clitoris with the surface of the bed, her hands, or a vibrator.
Here are some tips for making the most of doggy style.
- Take it slow. As I mentioned above, take it slow! Doggy style is best and most comfortable when the wife is very aroused. When Sexy Corte and I use doggy style it generally isn’t our first position (unless its the jockey variant). Doggy style makes a great finisher (for him), so warm up, get the wife’s orgasm, and then move to doggy style.
- Wife’s legs. When the wife keeps her legs together it increases tightness, which is pleasurable for both partners. However, the wife can have more movement and control of height and angle if she spreads her legs and the husband positions himself between them. In the standing variation, the wife can even cross her legs at the knees or ankles.
- Arch your back. When the wife arches her back (pushing her tummy down) she improves the angle for her husband as well as gives him a great view.
- Pillow support. Many of the variations can incorporate positioning pillows for support and leverage. Using a pillow will help you prevent unwanted motion and make the position more stable for both spouses.
- Vibrator. Doggy style isn’t the best orgasm position for wives, but you can use a vibrator to assist.
So there you have it! Do you have any doggy style tips to share? Any variations that we missed? Please leave a comment!
These are some great tips. :) Thanks for sharing.
Thanks!
In all our married years and with no other partner for either we have never had doggy style work can’t get it in
Hello! Thanks for leaving the comment.
If you want to share, can you tell us what has prevented you from getting doggy style to work? You said you can’t get it in, but can you explain why?
We have never yet been able to do it doggy style. We are real good at having fun sex but doggy style doesn’t work wish it did
Why doesn’t doggy style work for you? Maybe there are other options….
My husband has recently expressed interest in trying out rear entry positions. I’m super excited because it’s the first time he’s shared something that he wants. We have a ramp/wedge combo set of positioning pillows, but can’t seem to figure out how to get the angles to work. Any suggestions besides keep trying? :)
We have a post on wedge pillows, and we love ours.
https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/toys/wedge-pillows/
Using them is pretty straight-forward. Put the wedge down with one corner pointing up, and then the wife bends over the pillow — usually with the front of her torso resting on the long side of the pillow. (Geometrically, put the log leg or the hypotenuse of the triangle downward against the bed, and put the top of wife’s thighs against the the short leg of the triangle.)
“Geometrically, put the log leg or the hypotenuse of the triangle downward against the bed, and put the top of wife’s thighs against the short leg of the triangle.”
I knew learning geometry would one day come in handy. lol
Couple of thoughts on Doggy Style:
1. Having the wife thrust back is very enjoyable to both spouses. It gives the wife something to do, allows her to show passion for her husband, and increases pleasure for both spouses. I have climaxed a number of times when my wife has done this.
2. Once the wife is sufficiently aroused thrusting harder and faster is achievable and enjoyable. The husband won’t last long doing this, however, so it is a good idea to alternate between thrusting speeds in order to lengthen the encounter.
3. If the wife has trouble climaxing during intercourse doggy style offers easy access to the clitoris for both the husband’s and the wife’s hands.
Great tips! We also find that using a wand vibrator can make it easier to reach the wife’s clitoris.
A favorite position for many on our site! Also, I will add that another way for couples to spice things up is to simply increase the aggressiveness of sex – go a bit harder, basically – and one way to do that is this position.
Yes, being more aggressive is one of the items we noted for “how to get your wife to lust for you”!
One of the great things about the doggy style position is its intense eroticism, passion, and primalness. During sex there is no clearer invitation for passionate intercourse than a wife bending over and presenting her behind to the husband. It’s a neon sign that says, “Get inside and take me for a ride. Let us delight in our passion for each other”. On the other side of the coin few things say, “You are mine and I can’t have enough of you and your body” more than a husband taking his wife doggy style.
The deep penetration and powerful thrusting possible in this position create the greatest physical pleasure I have ever experienced. It also doesn’t hurt that the wife really likes it too.
There are only a few sights more beautiful and delightful to me than watching my wife as she turns or bends over to allow me to enter her from behind. The anticipation of what is about to happen is glorious!
It is highly erotic for a woman to give herself to her man in this way (either by direct invitation or just by allowing him to take her). It’s an intimate expression of giving and trust on the part of the wife.
The biggest allure of this position for me really isn’t the physical pleasure (although it is a big part of it). Rather it is the emotional reward of my wife giving herself to me and allowing me go all out in expressing my desire and passion for her and her body.
I encourage all couples to give this kind of sex a try and to make it a regular part of the marriage bed. It is a perfect “grand finale” position for a lovemaking session but it also works great as the “go to” position.
Now if a wife really wants to knock hubby’s socks off then surprise doggy style is the way to go.
The wife can wear a short skirt with no panties and sit her hubby down on the couch. Then she can either do a strip tease (like in this guide: https://site.themarriagebed.com/sexuality/sexual-play/how-to-strip-female/) or just jump on him and make out until she is aroused enough for intercourse. (Note: she should let him know that he can’t take her to bed until she has given her “surprise”)
Then when she is ready (ideally at the cusp of orgasm) and he is about to explode she can do one of the following based on how the couple wants the encounter to proceed
1. Whisper in his ear that she is his for the taking and to take her from behind right now. Use this option to let him take the lead in positioning her body for doggy style. After getting worked up there is a deep, primal urge of overwhelming love and affection in a guy that is screaming at him to just pull the wife into position, get a firm grip on her hips, and go to town with passionate intercourse.*
2. Get on all fours (or lean over the nearest suitable furniture) and stick out her behind prominently to invite the husband to penetrate. That act of invitation (essentially “I know you are about to :bleep: me and I want you to”) is incredibly alluring.
For more spice take him to the bathroom, lean on the vanity in front of the mirror, and as above present the behind to initiate intercourse. https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/take-me-now/ The view in this position is second to none.
*Note to guys: Don’t go full power with the first thrust. Rather ease in slowly and warm things up with a couple of slow thrusts that get progressively deeper. This makes sure her vagina is fully adjusted to the penis. Once that is done you can thrust harder and deeper.
Whichever method is chosen during intercourse the wife should continue to be enthusiastic and vocal. She can manually stimulate her clitoris, counterthrust, offer verbal encouragement, moan loudly as he thrusts, etc. If there is sufficient foreplay and he can last long enough there is a good chance both parties can orgasm within a few minutes of initial penetration.
(Aside: Doggy style is actually a great position for the wife’s orgasm given the intensity of intercourse coupled with the ability of the wife or husband to manually stimulate the clitoris.)
Trust me, this is something a good husband will remember and cherish for a long time and he’ll be eager to return the favor. Passionate, enthusiastic sex between spouses is not only fun in the moment but it also builds emotional and spiritual connections. Sadly, the church tends to do a bad job on teaching young men and women what God’s design for sex is.
I know that my husband enjoys this position. He is just not all that verbal about it. I wish he was though. I have been trying to work on myself to be more giving in our bed room and less of a door keeper.
I get a lot from reading other husbands perspectives concerning sexual intimacy on here. Your comments about this position were very interesting to me.
My husband is much more the initiator in our bed room. I know he would be delighted (so surprised) if I invited him by assuming an inviting (the invitation) position.
In general men tend to be less verbal. Its just the way we’re wired.
Since you know your husband would love it if you initiated in this way I encourage you to follow through. Most husbands deeply desire that their wives initiate and participate.
No seriously. What kind of class 2 question if this? Should Christian men be hitting it from the back. How? This is why people don’t want to come to church, get married and get saved oooo. They think they will be doing missionary position for the rest of their lives!
And, sadly, this is EXACTLY the reality for the majority of us. Our “church” actually “TEACHES” that Christian married sex, between a married husband and wife, for “fun”, is “fleshly” and is discouraged for more “Neo-Gnostic” pursuits.
Not quite for procreation only, but a sort of “wink and a nod” acknowledgement to “break glass only in emergency” to prevent adultery for example. Any “enjoyment” is to be frowned upon as “worldly”, fleshly and about half a notch above, say, going to Thailand for a week long Sex Tour without your wife in drag. All without saying a word and paying lip service to “God’s Design” regarding the marriage bed.
Any “Titus 2 Teaching” by the “Blue-Haired Mafia” is more along the lines of DIS-couragement.
To quote wife, “I don’t see what the big deal is about sex.” After years of indoctrination before we got married. Well, dear, trust me it IS a big deal. If not for sex what ELSE would we be “waiting” for? Everything ELSE in marriage (hobbies etc) can be had by having a female friend or joining one club or another. You can even adopt a kid without getting married. Or even HAVE one without getting married if you are a woman.
And I have NEVER “left her hanging”. Not. One. Time. Never, unless I was “commanded” to do so. And then got mad at ME because she had an orgasm anyway! I was “taking too long on purpose”.
So really what OTHER reason is there?
I have begged her to get out of that “church” for years. Going on 37 years now in a sexless (less than once a month) marriage. I was hoping for at LEAST every other day. MAX. It is like the Song of Solomon doesn’t even exist! Certainly never had a class on it.
37 years of marital “bliss”! Yeah, right.
Longsuffering, it’s not too late for God to work in your marriage! Check out my earlier comment and go to God in prayer.
Not listening for 37 years. How exactly do you not even think about adultery when your own wife thinks sex isn’t necessary in marriage and false-teaching “church” reinforces this wrong belief?
I love doggy style position! Some people think it’s a sinful sex act. Stupid! Nothing better than bending your beautiful wife over and entering her from behind. In marriage, any sexual position is fine. Nothing in the Bible that says it’s wrong! Besides most women love it!!