Yes, You Should Swallow

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All Christian sex bloggers eventually get around to the question: should a wife swallow her husband’s semen? As usual, the answer is “if she wants to”. Well that’s fine… no one should be coerced into doing anything against her will… but I’m going to go a bit farther for wives and claim that you should cultivate a desire to swallow.

Why? Well, let’s get inside your husband’s head for a minute. As I’ve written before, we men like to mark our territory — and depositing his goo into your body is one of the primary ways your husband marks you. If you reject his semen, you’re rejecting him as your mate and as the potential father of your children. Even though it’s your mouth, refusing to swallow is basically the same as insisting that your husband wear a condom when you have intercourse.

On the flip side, when you do swallow, you create intimacy between you and your husband. You demonstrate love and acceptance on a very primal level that goes beyond words. If you want to drive your husband crazy don’t just suck him off — dive into him like a woman wandering through a desert who has just spotted an oasis. Not like you have to swallow, but like you crave him and will die if he doesn’t shoot himself down your throat right now.

And finally: God himself describes the passion of oral sex better than I ever could.

Bonnie Wallace says that semen is the perfect food for a wife.

In addition, it also has some great mind-altering effects.  It boosts melatonin, which helps you sleep, and oxytocin, which increases affection and boosts your mood.  You know how they say that breast milk is the most perfect food for an infant?  Well, semen is a pretty darn close comparison for the perfect sex food for a wife.

She also gives some helpful tips, so I recommend that wives head over to her place and read the whole article.

Ok, I’m not going to say that it is easy to swallow the first time you try to do it.  Depending on how often you have sex, a LOT may come out down there.  I’ll admit that my technique initially was to try to get it all in my mouth then swallow all at once to “get it over with” and that usually ended up making a really big mess.  Instead, it works better to drink it like a water fountain, swallowing and drawing more into your mouth at the same time.  Granted, there still may be too much to get it all, but it works a lot better this way than the other.

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79 comments

    1. My wife is convinced she cannot let me come in her mouth. She is not into giving blow jobs. Married 39 years on July 2nd. I have prayed for years for her heart to change. Were you hesitant at one time at giving oral sex? What changed for you? I love performing oral sex on her. It is my favorite erotic act and is off the charts arousing.

    2. Glad you are on board with this being female. My wife wants no part of me squirting near her face! Good for you! Your man must be thrulled out of his mind!

    3. Thanks Bonnie for your posting. Glad to hear you are on board with this! You must have a lucky man for sure! Hope you enjoy it and don’t do it just for his sake. 😊

  1. Thanks for leaving the first comment our blog has ever received! Sexy Corte and I both enjoy your site, and I’m sure we’ll be linking to you often 🙂

    1. Thanks for visiting and leaving a comment! I think it’s pretty hard to avoid swallowing when you’re going down on your wife.

      1. Sometimes even catching a breath can be a trick. 🙂 And they think it’s so easy. “Well, at least you aren’t gagging.” Well, how about just breathing, ladies. If you’re husband is really full face, chin to nose, in it to win it and you leg lock him in, a guy could asphyxiate.

  2. Wow. Just wow. I have no problem with the concept of swallowing, I have swallowed on occasion, but it’s a really insecure man who needs his wife to do that in order to feel accepted as a mate. Last time I checked, insecurity is *really* not sexy on a man.

    I have swallowed. I don’t think it’s gross. It does burn my throat really bad, and my husband is not offended in the least if I spit it out. He does not feel rejected. I would question the underlying psychological issues in a man who NEEDS his wife to swallow, why does he feel that way? And I’ve never heard of any man feeling rejected by condom use. Sure, it’s not very comfortable, but rejected?

    Cortisol is chemical most commonly produced in response to stress. Any references on how this is supposed to increase affection, or are you just spouting inaccuracies without checking your sources?

    1. Hi T, thanks for the comment!

      It’s great that you and your husband are in agreement on this matter. Every couple is different, and you’ve found what works for you.

      I stand by my main thesis for wives: “I’m going to go a bit farther for wives and claim that you should cultivate a desire to swallow.” Despite your perception, men are often insecure about their sexuality, just like many women are.

      As for cortisol, I was quoting Bonnie. I’m not an endocrinologist, but some quick Googling leads me to believe that she may have been crossing her wires with reference to oxytocin.

    2. T, first off, you’re not a man so please don’t presume to understand our insecurities. It’s very possible that your man doesn’t share his insecurities with you. It’s simply not “manly” to do so.

      My wife loves me eating her but has been “grossed out” giving blow jobs. For her, it really is a “job”. So my first hurdle was simply getting her to suck me. Her normal blow job would last about two minutes, and then on to other business. I have had my tongue between her legs for more than an hour on several occasions.

      Recently, she changed her attitude. She seems to be enjoying sucking me. Then, during one blow job, she started telling me she wanted me to cum in her mouth and she wanted to swallow my cum. I couldn’t cum fast enough. She swallowed every drop. First time after 30 years of marriage.

      She had attempted to swallow before but let most of my semen drip out before swallowing very little of it. For me, it was a whole new level of acceptance for me. A level I had never felt.

      We men have a primal need to please and satisfy our lady. I have always put her pleasure first. Part of that is letting her believe that I’m satisfied with what she does. Swallowing is a big deal for me, and I’m sure most men would agree, if they’re being honest.

      I actually wrote about that blow job. You can read about it here: http://www.marriedheat.com/perfect-blowjob/

      1. @marriedheat: Agree that wives ought to try accepting the semen and swallowing. Many wives find that it is not that big a deal once they try it a few times. Too many wives just reject the idea of swallowing without trying it. We have written at length on this as well.

        http://larrysmusings.com/2015/02/10/spicing-up-married-lovemaking-oral-sex/

        Letting go of the mental block and the fear is a big help to a wife in this area. At the very least, the wife ought to allow her husband to finish in her mouth.

      2. You are a incredible husband. Indeed your wife is very lucky to have u between her legs for an hour. This shows you care and love you wife pleasure. The real joy of ultimate great married love is nothing great than having oral sex with great feelings. Indeed, I do the same to my wife, I make sure when I smooch my wife sweet thing she at least release her orgasm twice or thrice, after all its all about the grand pleasure she experience. In return I’m very lucky as my wife never rejected my drown into her mouth, she loves every drop and also insist to come on her face, so she apply as facial which he got a wonderful results. It been 8 years (now we r 37&34) of my marriage, she always humble to open her mouth to swallow my power liquid.
        You husbands do provide to your wife a great powerful substance which makes her strong and strengthen your relationship. Also make sure she also get maximum pleasure as u receive by going down to her.

        1. Very luck husband’s who’s wives swallow and desire it. My wife does not want it anywhere near her face or mouth even though I have expressed my desire for me to give her a facial and ultimately swallow. One of the best gifts a husband can receive is knowing his wife desires him in that way. I so tell my wife how much i love tasting her and how much of a turn on it is! It is quite the delicacy eating my wife’s cum and juices!

    3. Sometimes it’s because he has not expeirienced something that has become a major desire and I guess according to you he’s wrong and weak for it

    4. Nothing turns me on more than a strong assertive woman, as I perceive you are from your comment, that swallows. My wife swallows all the time. I would feel disconnected if she stopped, but I agree with you that I wouldn’t and shouldn’t feel rejected if she didn’t swallow. I would probably feel less exclusive.

    1. Well, I think it’s mostly a matter of talking to her and explaining what you want. I wouldn’t recommend nagging though 🙂 Check out Bonnie’s post that I linked to above, it has a lot of good tips.

  3. I could not have said that any better but that is also what the women were teaching in the Victorian era so that’s one reason marriages struggle today bless everyone who’s trying to turn the tables around to God’s way once again

  4. Here’s why I don’t swallow–the consistency and temperature of semen remind me irresistably of vomit. Sorry, I wish it weren’t so,but it is. I do love my husband and want to make him happy, but I guess I must just be extra sensitive to textures or something.

    1. Thanks for leaving a comment!

      Of course it’s between you and your husband. Maybe he doesn’t care? If he does, it might be a taste you could acquire.

    2. My advice, Clementia, is keep trying. Try the chocolate sauce or something else. See if it helps. If it does, I’ll guarantee you’ll meet a new man in your bed.

  5. As someone who feels alone on this topic, I’m just wondering how the men and women on here feel about men swallowing. What I’m saying is how do the men feel about going down on their wife after they (the men) have had an orgasm? Also, how do the women feel about their husband going down on them after their husband has had an orgasm?

    I think it is especially important if my wife wasn’t able to orgasm from intercourse.

    1. I told my wife at an early point in our marriage that I would do ANYTHING she asked of me. ANYTHING! And I have. Now, considering she was, and still is, pretty naïve, she’s never asked me to do anything outrageous. Eating her after I’ve had an orgasm is something I found to be quite erotic and enjoyable. The first time was a bit weird but I got over it quickly when she was bucking on my face in ecstasy. 🙂

      She, on the other hand, has never made the ANYTHING pledge to me. I’m sure she knows better. 🙂

  6. I find it difficult to swallow, but I’m very happy to take his semen on my face and body, so long as I haven’t climaxed. A turnoff to have all that goey stuff on me if I’ve already cum, but if not a facial or cumshot to the body does really help me get there.

    1. Thanks for the comment Cathy!

      Out of curiosity, does your husband usually come first? Nothing wrong with that, but it’s the opposite of most couples I think, so I’m wondering.

      1. Yes, he normally reaches orgasm first. What I love is that I can sometimes make him aroused once again by the mere sight of me dripping in his semen!

    2. My wife loves when I cum on her breast, stomach or on the outside of her girl parts. She really enjoys when I lick it up and touch her body; so much that we normally can work in session number 2.

      1. That is amazing to hear. I had to learn to enjoy the taste of my cum. But like alcohol once you gain the desire for the flavor it becomes intoxicating. Now the thought, smell and flavor of cum just brings the experience of the intimacy to a full charged sexual experience. We finally got to the point that we have to share and assign who gets to enjoy the semen.
        This just brings the excitement and enjoyment up one level. But we are in it together.

    3. Awesome! At least you are willing to take it on your face! All natural makeup that enhances ALL women’s beauty! Gotta love those facials! Hope the swallowing cums easier for you!

  7. About five years ago I had a huge orgasm in my wife. She had not cum yet. I was so in heat that I went down on her with my cum in her. I was really just above it on her clitoris. She tried to stop me at first but when I keep going she just went wild. She had the longest, hardest orgasm ever. However, she has stopped me every time since. I think it is out of her comfort zone.

  8. I will testify as a man and confess. My girlfriend in college “taught” me all about sex. I was a newbie and had no experience. She obviously had. While we stopped just short of intercourse, everything else was on the table. She swallowed the first time I experience oral sex and every time. It was accepting and bonding. I regret it. I repent of it. It’s done me no good whatsoever. Comparison isn’t healthy in a marriage and my wife has never swallowed nor even remotely considered it. She’s grossed out by it and we’ve had all kinds of issues in our sex life. Great marriage but suffering sex life. Truly, honestly, painfully speaking … I will tell you that I regret my “conquests” in college. I wish I’d never gone there and saved all of it for my wife. I’ve asked Jesus to sanctify and forgive my past and I’ve had to break all soul-ties with my college girlfriend.

    1. It’s good that you can recognize your past sins and repent. I pray that you’ll be able to move past them and find incredible joy in your marriage! We’ve all made bad decisions in the past, sexually or otherwise. God is eager to forgive us when we repent, and you can heal with time and grace.

      Whether or wife ever swallows or not, there are tons of ways to enjoy sexuality with her. I encourage you to work at building new memories with your wife that will wipe out any lingering phantoms from your past!

  9. I think it’s just good practice to swallow. Although mine doesn’t. Woman think nothing of you having there juices in your mouth. I get the oh the Volacity and the temperature of it. I can’t say anything but I think she should try more than once! I have no problem when she squirts up my nose and drenches me I drink a lot of her and I see the point about feeling loved. Just my thoughts.

    1. I agree. A lot of wives are happy to receive, but not give back. I was brought up in a very conservative Christian family, didn’t know what sex actually was til I was 18 and was still a virgin when I got married at 24. I was so ready for sex that I was so happy to try anything and everything at least once. Blow jobs were taboo in my circle (after I discovered people actually did that, haha) so when my hubby taught me how, it was a culture shock at first, but it then became OUR marriage culture. He loved cumming all over my face and body, I could see the sheer joy it gave him!
      The first time I swallowed it was my choice and I actually did it without him asking. I had tried it before, licking it off my lips or cleaning him off, so wasn’t bothered by taste or texture.
      I had never seen him so happy and he treated me like a queen for the rest of the day. It’s so worth it ladies!
      Your body is his, and his is yours, enjoy it.
      We had a baby two years ago and haven’t had sex in all that time. I’ve asked for it, and begged, tried to go down on him but have been rejected.
      I hold onto those special times in our first two years of marriage. TMI sorry but it’s obviously messed me up lol
      Quit complaining girls because some of us don’t get anything anymore.

      1. Very true.. A true wife should accept her husband semen. Even her husband should be loyal to her. The both divine faithful husband and wife should practice the joy of sex and man should intake his wife honey and wife his precious semen. I made my wife this practice and it’s been 8 years of marriage and there’s no day she rejected swallowing of my semen. Once the love session comes to climax she readily opens her mouth and swallow with love and respect. She loves it as we are part of each other and nowadays she applies on her face as it gave good results.
        So for all the faithful husband and wives do accept and intake your partner orgasm. Nothing precious than anything which makes your relationship strong and trustworth.

  10. I love the post and shared it with my newly married wife married a year ago. Both of us are 47 have 5 kids my 3 are out on there own hers one at college and home on weekends and a 22 year old son almost out. I showed her the post and she smiled and said every one has there opinion lol…not even anal talk is discussed or mentioned…lol yea it’s soon to be my golden years and due to exercise and working out I feel like a teen ager…I still love her but talking smack and dreaming is the closest I’m gonna get..but I have her heart and we are soulmates so one day when God returns I will have him talk to her…..only God..

    1. Well it’s great that you’re communicating. I know what you mean about exercise strengthening your libido. Maybe if you can lure your wife out for some exercise with you the sexiness will follow?

  11. This is hilarious! First of all I am not a dog so referring to “marking his territory” is a bit extreme! How about refer to “marking his territory” when we said our vows and he placed a ring on my finger!! And an even funnier part is rejecting him as my mate or him being the father of my children?? Hahaha really?!?! Funny bc we have a 5 year old son together! My vagina didn’t reject that! And I don’t care to swallow but I certainly don’t hear any complaints at all! I’m all for trying new things that we both enjoy. We have a wonderful sex life and always have. He can live without me swallowing. Besides its not sexy to swallow that crap then vomit all over him. Js. To the women that do and the men that love it……swallow on!

  12. Yeah, not for me…
    The five times I’ve chosen to suck my husbands semen depositor, I vomit, once all over him. Yes, I’ve ‘worked on’ my gag reflex to no avail, and the nausea tends to stick with me for hours afterwards. No swallowing or deep sucking for me!! It’s not a wifely duty…sex is not required of women. If a man can’t respect his wife saying ‘no’ then he has problems. Plus sex is ridiculous, ugly and gross, pregnancy is disgusting and children and creepy.

  13. I can tell you that as a man, a Christian and a husband, it is a very important part of our sexual life for my wife to eat the semen that my balls produce daily. Thankfully, my wife agrees and does so happily. We have had our children and do not plan on having anymore, so in the absence birth control, which neither of us wish her to take, we use the pull out and ejaculate in her mouth method of birth control.

    From a utilitarian standpoint it is just cleaner that way (meaning no mess to clean and no sheets to clean). From her view, she says she feels closer to me when she eats my sperm. And from my viewpoint, I love the fact that I can make love to her and then ejaculate into her mouth. I even kiss her afterwards even before she swallows just to share in the moment together. I am not afraid of my own sperm and it makes her happy when I kiss her. I love my wife.

  14. been married to same little lady 46 years, still madly in love with her. only heavy petting before nupps. she said she wanted to as badly as i did but had to wait for the ring. she lied!! what a fight it was. i would say God says, and she would say but i don’t like it! she was 17 and i was 18 by 7 days when we married. it was a fight for 30 years to get her to do anything but missionary. she could come in five minutes and was done. i felt cheated, and told her so. the fights got so heated i told her to go home to her mother who had obviously messed with her head. she told me to go home to mine, and kicked me in the crotch. i am no saint, but i never hit her at any time. i stopped having sex with her in year 25 by this time i was crazy. she caught me many times doing myself. at first she was perplexed, then anger set in. i told her she could do the same.by year 35 she was ready for help. she went to a psycologist and the pastor who happened to be a lady. after 6 months of help she was convinced she had some screws loose and better work on it, or i guess something like that. the only thing i was told was to call the police the next time she hit me with someting. she was flabbergasted how could the pastor tell me that. the good part in all of this is she has done a 180. could be she has found out i am dying but last week she deep throated me and let me come like that. when she came up to kiss me she smiled and said i didn’t even taste it. my point to all of this is when you say i do, it means forever.

    1. Good for her !!! Being a sexual wife is the key to a happy marriage. Both partners should enjoy oral to the max ! She will get better and better.

  15. my wife has always given head.. and i love it.. She has not chosen to let me come in her mouth.. well maybe once… but her technique is when im about to blow..she comes off of my manhood.. and runs her mouth on the underside of my cock.. from the head all the way down the shaft….allowing my ejaculate to release on my belly and beyond. I do not feel shorted.. as her warm wet mouth is stroking the full length of my manhood. Does she ever taste some of my fluids? Im sure she does. But form her standpoint.. she doesn’t have to “swallow” my stuff.. and it always feels very intense. The nerve ending on the underside of my penis are very sensitive. As are all mens. Just my take on this topic for what its worth

  16. I absolutely love this article!!! My wife refuses to take facials and obviously no swallowing. I am 48 and never have experienced this. But I do fantasize about it… A big cheer to all those women and wives out there who are willing to and love facials and swallowing… It is the most sexiest and loving thing you could ever do for your man!

  17. Maybe I’m lucky in that I’m married to a woman who swallows. She has always swallowed. We have been married 17 years and together for 21 and I can tell you that her attitude toward the whole concept of swallowing has never really changed. She knows what it feels like, tastes like, etc. and always is fun about it, which makes it extra fun for me and us. Even if she gave one of her amazing blowjobs and then rejected my cum or acted grossed out by it, that would be a turn-off. Before my wife, I did date some women like that. In my experience, about 1/2 of women will swallow and 1/2 won’t. To me, not swallowing is a big turn off. I guess I’m lucky.

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