One of my most memorable dates with El Fury involved our car, a napkin, and a skirt. We had had a crazy day with the kids and both of us needed a little break. Last minute we asked a friend to watch them so that we could get out for a few hours. I threw on a skirt and a nice top, we dropped the kids off and went out for ice cream. El Fury didn’t know that I had a little trick up my sleeve.
In the middle of our date, I wrote him a note on a napkin and slid it over to him. He unfolded it, read it, and got a sly smile on his face. The note simply said, “I’m not wearing any panties”. He was too distracted after that, so we immediately finished our ice cream and got out of there. We drove to the nearest dead end we could find. All he had to do was pull down his pants a little, and all I had to do was hop on. We had amazing sex, definitely in my top 5!
I love it when El Fury is thoughtful and romantic. For him, and probably most men I would guess, it meant a lot to him that I thought out and planned a sexual surprise. He likes knowing that I think about and initiate a lot of our sexy time. Something so simple can go a long way. Women, think of a way to surprise your husband sexually.
‘For him, and probably most men I would guess, it meant a lot to him that I thought out and planned a sexual surprise.’ You have that SO right, SC. To a man it says some very important things that go way beyond “Oh, boy. I’m gonna get off right now..” From you he want to know, A) I think about sex. B) I like sex. C) I want sex. D) I want sex with you. AND E) I want sex NOW! Recently published a series on exactly that.
There’s just something so naughty about no-panties.
And unlike a revealing top or Daisy Duke shorts, you are the only one who experiences the pleasure of knowing and showing. It’s strictly for hubby only. If a guy doesn’t feel special after that kind of effort by his wife, he needs an EKG.
That’s a great point Dan, it is pretty fun to have a sexy secret with your spouse.
Even private flashings in public places, public gropings hidden by the table cloth and remote or switch controled egg vibes fall under that umbrella of a shared sexy secret. Not only is the doing sexy and hot, but so is the remembering. I have the feeling somehow you can confirm all of those bucket list items.
We still haven’t done a remote controlled egg, but it’s on our list.
Great site! I just found you two. I blog to married couples as well and will come back often to see what you are up to. It seems I have a lot of catching up to do.
We have been married for forty years and the sex is still hot and more often now than when we had kids at home. You have some new “types” of fun to enjoy when there are no kids around for longer periods of time.
My wife once planned a Hawaiian vacation in our living room (we live in PA) during a snow storm. Don’t shove the kids out the door too fast, but know for certain that things do not have to cool down with age!
Concerning this post of yours, it is somewhat “scandalous” to share those private secrets like being with out undies. By the way fellows, she will also enjoy knowing you are not wearing any! Have fun, life is way too short to fuss and complain.
We enjoy getting together with our children and our grandchildren but it sure is fun to enjoy each other on the trip or after we get home. Keeping the spark alive is half the fun for the intimacy in the relationship.
Enjoy every part of your family as time flies by.
I appreciate your frankness and the subject matter I have been able to read so far.
Thanks for your blog.
Jerry Stumpf
Hey Jerry, thanks so much for the comment! Congrats on your 40 years of marriage, that’s awesome. We’re newlyweds compared to you. It’s great to hear that sex stays fun for decades, because the stereotype of marriage on TV is that it gets boring and stale.
We’ll have to try that Hawaiian vacation at home sometime.
As a husband I absolutely love it when my wife makes an effort to surprise me sexually. So far she hasn’t surprised me with an entire planned encounter like above but her efforts so far please me and make me hopeful for bigger things down the line.
I would encourage every wife to occasionally surprise your husband with sex. It doesn’t have to be really elaborate. What man wouldn’t be overjoyed if his wife….
1. Met him at the door in a short skirt, took his hand and placed it where he would realize she is pantie less, and whispered in his ear she would like him to take her from behind right then and there.
2. Grabbed him by the hand after finishing a chore she wanted him to do and pulled him in for a nice long make-out session followed by a trip to the bedroom with her pushing him onto the bed, getting on top, and passionately riding him until he climaxes.
3. Woke him up one morning with a long, simmering session of fellatio ending in his climax.
4. or whatever variation of the above works best for your marriage and the endless other possible scenarios a loving wife could come up with.
A question I do have in some of these scenarios is what are some ways to help the wife be warmed up enough for intercourse before the “surprise” happens? As much as us husbands love surprises we understand wives need enough time and stimulation to be ready for intercourse. I think self stimulation by the wife and flirting beforehand helps (as well as artificial lube) but what ideas do you have on this EF and SC?
This is a tough one. At least for me, it would be hard to ‘surprise’ EF with the intention of me climaxing as well. The wife could try warming herself up before the surprise, but depending on time it may not work. The times that I have ‘surprised’ EF, I did that for you, because I love him and wanted to make him feel good. Not because I wanted to climax. If I wanted to do both I would probably just ask if he had enough time to go upstairs. If the wife wants both then it’s up to her to make sure she’s ready to go. :)
Thanks for the reply SC. I understand that a wife will probably not orgasm during a quick surprise encounter. My concern is making sure that the wife is aroused and lubricated enough so that intercourse isn’t painful. My wife can require anywhere from 3-20 minutes of sustained clitoral stimulation before she is aroused and lubricated enough to receive me. I guess I am wondering what methods of arousal and lubrication are most effective when foreplay time is short.
Mental and physical foreplay if you can. Lube and spit also work wonders :)