This post probably won’t be about whatever the title made you think of. Do you want the funny link first, or the serious one?
Ok, I heard someone say “funny”, so…
If you and your wife were waiting for a special delivery you might need to check your tracking number.
Ok, now for the serious link: Bridget Phetasy writes “I regret being a slut”.
I was first inspired to write this piece when a 19-year-old woman I used to wait tables with asked me: “Bridget, have you ever regretted having sex with a man?”
I laughed. “Yeah. All of them.”
That’s not entirely true. There was my first love in high school. And my first husband. But if I’m honest with myself, of the dozens of men I’ve been with (at least the ones I remember), I can only think of a handful I don’t regret. The rest I would put in the category of “casual,” which I would define as sex that is either meaningless or mediocre (or both). If I get really honest with myself, I’d say most of these usually drunken encounters left me feeling empty and demoralized. And worthless.
I wouldn’t have said that at the time, though. At the time, I would have told you I was “liberated” even while I tried to drink away the sick feeling of rejection when my most recent hook-up didn’t call me back. At the time, I would have said one-night stands made me feel “emboldened.” But in reality, I was using sex like a drug; trying unsuccessfully to fill a hole inside me with men. (Pun intended.)
I know regretting most of my sexual encounters is not something a sex-positive feminist who used to write a column for Playboy is supposed to admit.
The whole piece is worth reading. We all have regrets of some kind — sexual or otherwise — and we all hope that our children won’t make the same mistakes we did. Each of us has inherent value as image-bearers of God, and through Christ we can obtain grace and forgiveness for all our regrets. No matter where you are in life, it’s only one step back to God. We pray for all our readers that you wouldn’t suffer under the burden of regret when there is peace available for you!
Jesus said: “What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off. In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish.Matthew 18:12-14