Several wives have written in asking for more role-playing scenarios with dialogue — “GS” asks:

Your Student-Teacher role-playing post was really helpful for thinking up motives and dialogue. I’ve been trying to come up with more role-playing ideas, but I struggle to think of what to say and have a hard time getting out of my own head. Do you think you’ll ever do more role-playing posts?

Ask and you shall receive!

(If you haven’t read the how-to do sexual role-playing post yet, you might want to start there. Don’t worry… it’s normal to feel a little silly and awkward at first!)

The set-up: The Harem Girl desperately wants to join the harem, and the Sultan is trying to decide if she’s good enough.

You can use Esther 2:1-18 for inspiration if you want, and here are a few pieces of artwork that may stimulate your imagination.

For this scenario we’re going to assume that the husband is playing the Sultan and the wife is playing the Harem Girl. Feel free to reverse the roles if you want! (There were Sultanas.) It’s also important to remember that role-playing is play. Both spouses should be comfortable and have fun, even though the play puts them in roles of power and submission. This is a pretty challenging scenario because of the power dynamics, so if it makes you uncomfortable you might want to try out an easier scenario first.

The Sultan and Harem Girl scenario is fun for several reasons:

• Power exchange. The power dynamic between the Sultan and the Harem Girl is fun to experiment with but can be intense. Instead of being equals, the Harem Girl (temporarily, for the purposes of fun) gives up her power in the encounter and submits to the Sultan’s royal authority. The Harem Girl gets to play at being shy, nervous, reluctant, vulnerable, but eager for the Sultan’s approval. The Sultan gets to play at using his power and authority to command the Harem Girl and evaluate her performance. The power disparity is enormous and might make some couples uncomfortable, so you should discuss it in advance.
• Unfamiliar emotional hooks. Unlike many of the other role-playing scenarios we’ve written about, the emotional hooks in this scenario are likely to be pretty foreign. The Sultan may be ambivalent or negative at first — why should he take this girl into his harem? What’s so special about her? The Harem Girl needs to join the harem so she’s willing to perform for the Sultan and work for his approval. Neither of these roles is likely to be similar to anything you’ve experienced in real life, which makes this scenario pretty challenging. Because of this challenge, it may be smart to use a safe word to indicate when the role-playing needs to back off or stop altogether.
• Clear goals. The roles may be unfamiliar, but at least the goals are simple. The Sultan must decide whether or not to admit this new girl to his harem, and the Harem Girl desperately wants the answer to be yes. One potential complication is that a no from the Sultan is likely to ruin the whole experience, so both spouses need to work together to get to yes.

Here’s a note the Sultan can send to the Harem Girl in advance to set things up:

On behalf of Sultan El Fury, Sovereign of The Sublime House of Fury, Sultan-of-Sultans, Khan of Khans, Commander of the Faithful, Custodian of the Holy Cities, Emperor of the Steppes and Seas and Islands, with their castles and cities, and all the dependencies and borders, along with many other countries and peoples,

To Miss Sexy Corte,

You are hereby commanded to attend His Imperial Majesty this evening at eight-o-clock to be considered for admittance into the Imperial Harem. You will appear in your finest perfumes, lotions, jewelry, and cosmetics and you will wear your finest clothing. Do not disappoint His Imperial Majesty, and do not be late.

[sealed with the Imperial Seal]

Each spouse should complete their preparations before the designated start time. Potential props to prepare in advance:

• Jewelry. The Sultan and the Harem Girl can both get decked out in jewelry, real or costume. See the lists below for specific ideas.
• Music. Pick out an Arabian Nights-style playlist that the Harem Girl can dance to.
• Lube, vibrator, washcloth. All the usual tools and toys.

Here are some tips for the Sultan and ideas for things he can say.

• Dress like a king. Get cleaned up and wear your best clothes.
• Jewelry. The Sultan can have a crown, a ring, a scepter, a cape, and even a sword. It’s impossible to go too far when you’re the ruler of the known world.
• Throne. Sit in chair on top of a coffee table to elevate yourself over the aspiring Harem Girl.
• Attitude. You’re the king of the world, and you get what you want. You could choose to be aloof or negative towards the Harem Girl at first, but holding that attitude very long is likely to be frustrating for the Harem Girl — set expectations in advance. Sooner or later you’ll definitely want to warm up to the Harem Girl and gradually grow entranced by her grace and beauty.
• “You may rise.” “I have heard stories about your beauty, but I see that the reality exceeds even my imagination.”
• “You look so nervous. Tell me what you want from me.”
• “You are beautiful. Dance for me.”
• “Turn around, let me look at you.” “What are you best features?”
• “Take off your clothes, but leave your jewelry on.” “Show your body to me.” “Show me everything, don’t be shy.”
• “Why do you want to join my harem?” — The correct answer, of course, is “To please Your Imperial Majesty”.
• “How will you serve me?” “What will you do to please me?”
• “Tell me about your sexual abilities.” “What are you best at?” “How will you give me pleasure?”
• “If you want to join my harem you must show me that you can…” — what is the most important ability for a harem girl?
• “Tell me about your sexual pleasure.” “What arouses you?” “Tell me about your orgasms.”
• “What is your favorite position?” “How do you like to be taken?”
• “Show me how you like to be touched.” “Touch yourself while we talk.” — feel free to use lube or a vibrator if desired.
• “Put your finger inside yourself and show me how wet you are.”
• “Are you a good girl, or a bad girl?” “Good girls are always to eager to please, but bad girls are fun to bring into line.” — which do you prefer?
• “Show me how deep you can take it.” “Show me how long you can go for.”
• “When you’re close to orgasm you may beg me for permission to come.” “You must never have an orgasm unless I’m inside you.”
• “Don’t waste a drop.” “Use your mouth to clean me off.”
• “You’ve done well. I will see you again soon.”

Here are some tips for the Harem Girl and some ideas for things she can say.

• Dress like a princess. Make yourself up and wear your sexiest clothes. Lingerie and perfume can be great. Shave.
• Jewelry. The Harem Girl can wear a princess-style crown and rings, and can also wear necklaces, arm bands, necklaces, and bracelets. The Harem Girl is from nobility herself and should look the part.
• Attitude. You’re a princess or a noble and you’re used to getting what you want, but now you’re in desperate need. You have never met the Sultan, but you know he’s a powerful man with powerful libido. He expects his harem girls to work hard and do whatever it takes to please him. You aren’t exactly sure what that might entail, but you’ve got to succeed and win his favor.
• When you approach the Sultan’s throne you must kneel with your head to the floor until he gives you permission to stand. Address the Sultan as “Your Imperial Majesty” or, less formally, “my lord”.
• “I humbly beg to join Your Imperial Majesty’s harem.”
• Why do you want to join the harem? — “I know that my family has disappointed Your Imperial Majesty in the frontier war, and I hope for an opportunity to somehow earn back my lord’s favor for my family.” — The details probably aren’t too important.
• “I am eager to serve Your Imperial Majesty however I can.”
• “Is my lord pleased by my appearance?” “What can I show my lord?”
• “My lord, I am very proficient at…” — what sexual acts are you best at?
• “My lord, I am eager for you to take me in…” — what position? In what way?
• “My lord, my orgasms are best when…” — what? How?
• “My lord, I am a good girl. Please give me an order and let me show you.”
• “My lord, despite my best effort I am often a bad girl. I hope that I can learn to obey my lord if I am properly disciplined.”
• “My orgasms belong to my lord.” “My lord’s servant will never come without my lord’s permission.”
• “My lord’s servant humbly thanks His Imperial Majesty for her orgasm.” “Thank you, my lord, for receiving me this evening.”
• And just to wrap things up, finish with another kneeling bow.

Afterwards, break the scene and leave your roles. The game is over (for now), so go back to being your normal selves. Have a good cuddle. Talk about your favorite parts of the scene, and stay positive. Later on, after the glow wears off, discuss anything you didn’t like and wouldn’t choose to do again. If your spouse really liked some element that wasn’t your favorite, negotiate and compromise and find the common ground that works for your marriage.

Have you ever role-played with your spouse in a scenario with this much power exchange? Do you enjoy it? Did it make you uncomfortable? Leave a comment!