Wife “NN” writes:
I had a very uncomfortable situation recently. My husband and I went for a weekend away with our really good friends, and we decided to save some money by sharing a hotel room. We made a rule: no sex while both couples are in the room. We agreed we would give each other time alone during the trip. Anyway, the first night we go out and we all get pretty drunk, especially my husband. That night, I woke up in the middle of the night and I could hear our friends whispering. I peeked out from under my covers and could not believe my eyes. They were clearly having sex.
At this point, my husband was completely passed out and I pretended to be sleeping. My girlfriend was trying to be quiet but I could clearly hear her moaning. I must have dozed off again, and when I opened my eyes my girlfriend was facing me and her husband was spooning her. What was worse was the blanket was off and her legs were open and I could see everything, including his penis going in and out of her vagina. I had no idea what to do so I pretended to sleep, and this continued for a hour or more. In the morning my husband was oblivious to what I witnessed, and he went to the gym. I went to the bathroom and when I came out my girlfriend was standing completely naked in front of me and hugged me. I am so embarrassed. I want to tell my husband but he will just laugh. Along with all this embarrassment, I really got turned on by watching them and I’m not sure what to do. Help?
This does sound like an awkward situation. I think it’s ok to talk to both your friend and your husband about it. It’s good to have boundaries, and it sounds like your friends crossed yours. You don’t have to dwell on what happened, but acknowledging it can clear the air and then you can move on in your relationship. If it’s still bothering you after some times has passed, talking about it with your husband and laughing together might help you move on.
As for being aroused, I don’t think you need to feel bad about it. Your body responded to what it was seeing. If your mind is dwelling on it, try to turn your thoughts towards your husband and your sex life with him. We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can use every experience in life for God’s glory.
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I had a similar thing happen to me and my husband several years ago. We were not long married maybe a couple of years and we went to a wedding and shared a room with my husband cousin and his wife. My husband and I were in our 20s his cousin and his wife were in their 50s. We had a great relationship with them. He was extremely outgoing and was the life of the party. His wife was much more reserved. They both were in very good shape and always worked out. Anyway we were sharing a hotel room and nothing was discussed about sex or boundaries I just assumed that we would all be respectful of each other. We were all pretty hammered especially my husband. We were all in great spirits and we all got dressed and put our pajamas on and climbed in to bed. I had to undress my husband and put him to bed. Anyway lights out everyone said goodnight and I went to sleep. I was woken by the cousin wife saying no no we can’t do anything. I was half asleep and drunk and I could see her husband was trying to undress her and she was no they will hear us. He was pleading and begging for her to get undressed. Next thing I know she said okay and got out of the bed and is now standing between the beds and is taking off her pajamas right in front of me. She gets back in the bed naked and tells him that he needs to be quiet and hurry up. If they wake up she said that she will be mortified. They were full on going at it when she looks up and sees that I was fully awake.
Just then her husband pulls out and ejaculated all over her body. She immediately apologized.
Her husband asked if I was turned on and wet? His wife slapped him and said how dare he say that.
Little did they know I was beyond horny and soaking wet.
My husband and I had a similar situation we were out of town for a wedding and we had agreed to share a room with my husbands nephew and his wife they were only married about 6 months. They were about 10 years younger than us. Anyway we went to the wedding had a great time we all had quite a lot to drink. We were all joking and laughing in the Uber on the way back to the hotel. I jokingly said hey don’t forget we are sharing a hotel room you young love birds. I said if you guys need some alone time you can go to the room right now and we will stay away give you some privacy. I said after all you are both still virtually newlyweds. Plus I could tell that they were both pretty drunk. But I also knew that they were both pretty conservative. Anyway they said no need for us to do that and we went to our room. Anyway we walk in to our room and I say who is going to get changed first in the bathroom? She said no need and told us to look away. Before we could look away she dropped the dress that she had on to the floor and she had no underwear on at all she said sorry and jumped into her bed. Anyway to cut a long story short they didn’t care that we were in the bed next to them they had sex all night only saving grace was our room was very very dark so couldn’t see anything but we could hear everything. The next day they were extremely embarrassed. They kept apologizing and I had a argument with my husband because he got really turned on by the whole thing.