Have you ever found yourself lying in bed awake in the middle of the night? This happens to me every so often, as well as El Fury. What do you do to get back asleep? Sometimes it feels like you can toss and turn for hours. Want to know a better and more fun solution? Have sex!! Orgasms can make you very sleepy. You can peacefully fall back into dreamland without the frustration of lying there in the dark. Plus it is fun the next day to feel like you and your spouse shared a secret midnight tryst.
Think you will upset your spouse by waking them up in the middle of the night? That depends on your spouse. You should definitely communicate how they would feel about it so when the time comes you aren’t setting yourself up for disappointment. How your spouse responds might also depend on the manner of which they are woken up. I would discourage an elbow to the side followed by a “you up?” El Fury always says the best way to wake up is by me licking his balls. If you don’t have good access, try a little gentle petting in the right area to see if this generates any interest. Or try some erotic snuggling. It is possible to get your spouse aroused before they even wake up.
Sex in the middle of the night can be very passionate, probably because it has a dream-like quality. All of the kids are asleep (hopefully!) so you can take your time and really let loose. So the next time you can’t sleep, instead of reaching for the Benadryl, reach for your spouse!
Yes, sex works as a great sleeping pill for me. For Heather, not so much. It does relax her but while I lie there on top or under her, sleeping peacefully, she’s awake. She loves that time … I usually sleep for about 15 minutes before something else, like an arm, hand, foot, etc. falls asleep and starts to hurt.
Interesting, so… you purposefully fall asleep after sex and stay in position?
Or you’re making a joke and I just missed it? :)
The first time I fell asleep, it was quite unintentional. When I woke up, Heather was lying under me, lightly rubbing my arms, shoulders, back, and butt. I was very embarrassed. I apologized but she told me how much she loved it. It became a routine. When she’s on top, she actually lays on my chest as I fall asleep.
There have been times, while I’m asleep, she’d start slowly gyrating her hips to get a little movement. Several times, she has brought herself to orgasm while I sleep, my manhood still inside her. Other times, her actions have awakened me (all of me) and we have another go.
Not something I’ve heard of before, but sounds pretty intimate. I usually can’t fall asleep on my back though, so… need to experiment.
May not be for everyone. Science is on the man’s side here. After an orgasm, chemicals are released in a man that works as a sleep agent.
From LiveScience.com: “Then there is the biochemistry of the orgasm itself. Research shows that during ejaculation, men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin. The release of prolactin is linked to the feeling of sexual satisfaction, and it also mediates the “recovery time” that men are well aware of—the time a guy must wait before “giving it another go.” Studies have also shown that men deficient in prolactin have faster recovery times.
Prolactin levels are naturally higher during sleep, and animals injected with the chemical become tired immediately. This suggests a strong link between prolactin and sleep, so it’s likely that the hormone’s release during orgasm causes men to feel sleepy.”
There. Vindicated! HAHA
Haha, no doubt that one is sleepy afterwards :) Just hard to imagine being comfortable sleeping on another person.
My husband does this too when he’s on top of me. Within a minute or so of finishing he’s usually asleep, and he’ll sleep 10-15 minutes. I just keep my arms wrapped around him and play with his hair or rub his back or whatever. Sex doesn’t put me to sleep, but I love it when he falls asleep for a bit on top of me and we have all that skin touching for a while.
That sounds pretty great. I’m glad I now know that this is a thing!
Heather finds it a sexy afterglow. Good thing. I have a hard (no pun intended) time staying awake.
Heather finds it sexy afterglow. Good thing. I have a hard (no pun intended) time staying awake.
My wife is my fave blanket. We’re both tall so our bodies were made for each other. She’s light so she can lay directly on me. I’m heavier so usually I lay a bit to the side.