Having sexual fantasies about your spouse is great, and sharing your fantasies with each other is a good way to deepen your sexual relationship.
Earlier this week Sexy Corte was on her period and going out with the kids for a playdate with some of their friends. She joked, “I know what you’ll be doing while I’m gone”. An evening with the house to myself?!
Me: “Playing video games.”
Her: “And jerking off.”
She was right, of course, and when she came home she asked about my fantasies.
Me: “Fantasy Sexy Corte is always home with me, and always eager to please!”
Her: “Oh yeah? And what exactly does Fantasy Sexy Corte do, hmmmm?”
Me: “She’s dirty and amenable.”
Now, Sexy Corte is very open minded and agreeable, so this isn’t a knock on her at all. But Fantasy Sexy Corte will give me an hour-long blowjob while I play video games. Sharing these fantasies with Sexy Corte is a fun way to expand our sexual conversation, and every real sex act we do starts in one of our minds as a fantasy.
Your spouse should be the focus of your sexual energy, in “real life” and in your fantasies. Be as open as you can when sharing your fantasies with your spouse, and when your spouse shares with you be sure to listen without judgement or offense.
Do you share your sexual fantasies with your spouse? If so, how do those conversations go?