This post is also available as a podcast: Podcast #009: Sexual Role-Playing: Professor and Student

The most common emails we get are about oral sex, but a little way down the list are questions from folks who want to incorporate role-playing in their sex life, but aren’t really sure how to get started. I wrote a post about how to do sexual role-playing, and today I’m going to give more specific tips for how to play out a professor-and-student scene. This scenario is probably the most common role-playing that Sexy Corte and I do, and maybe these ideas will get your creative juices flowing.

(If you haven’t read the how-to post yet, you might want to start there. Don’t worry… it’s normal to feel a little silly and awkward at first!)

From here on, I’m going to assume that the wife is playing the Student role, but you can easily flip it. Remember: role-playing is play. Both spouses should be comfortable and have fun, even though the play puts them in roles of power and submission.

The professor-and-student scenario is fun for several reasons:

• Power exchange. The power dynamic between the Student and Professor is fun to inhabit. Instead of being equals, the Student (temporarily, for the purposes of fun) gives up her power in the encounter and pretends to reluctantly submit to the Professor’s sexual advances. She gets to play coy, innocent, and desperate for the Professor’s approval, while the Professor gets to play at using his power and authority to “prey” on the Student’s vulnerability.
• Familiar emotional hooks. The emotions behind the role-play are easy to grasp, because we’ve all been in the position of the student who really needs to pass her class. She doesn’t want to get kicked out of school! What will her parents think if she fails? Will she have to repeat the class? Will she graduate? She’ll do whatever it takes to satisfy her professor, even….
• Clear goals. The professor-and-student scenario is relatively easy to improvise because both characters have clear goals: the Student wants her grade, and the Professor wants the Student. It’s not like you’re playing a pirate or an astronaut or Hamlet. Both roles can take initiative and play into their parts without any confusion about where the scene is going. No one should need to break character or say “I don’t know”.

Ok, so how do you get started? I enjoy prompting Sexy Corte with a note early in the day. Something like this:

To: Miss Corte

Please come see me during office hours this evening around 7:30pm. We need to discuss your midterm exam.

Signed: Professor Fury

[You haven’t been doing so well in class, but you really need to pass! You might have slightly cheated on your midterm… hopefully the professor hasn’t figured it out.]

The note proposes a time and place for the scene to begin, which means we can jump right into it after the kids are in bed. The last part, in brackets, gives Miss Corte some motivation for her character so that we’re on the same page when she shows up in my office. She needs to pass the class (of course), but she also has a secret that she hopes Professor Fury doesn’t know, which might give her an extra edge of desperation if it’s revealed.

If Sexy Corte is up for the plan she’ll send me a note or text message back. We’ll probably text back and forth several times, building up the tension and arousal. After the kids are in bed I’ll go to my office and wait for Miss Corte to knock on my door. Here are a few ideas for how each role can be played once the scene begins — this isn’t a script, just some thoughts to spur your imagination!

Things the Professor can do or say:

• Dress formally, like a professor. You are powerful and intelligent, at the top of your profession — your students tremble at your gaze.
• Sit in your chair behind your desk. Act stern, aloof, and disappointed in the Student.
• “I finished grading your test, and you didn’t do very well at all.”
• “I’m disappointed that you aren’t taking my class seriously.”
• “If you don’t improve your grade, you’re not going to pass my class.”
• “You could lose your scholarship, and might not even graduate.”
• “What do you intend to do about this situation?” — This line is fun, because it puts the Student in the position of having to “reluctantly” propose some sexual favor.
• “You might be able to earn some extra credit, if…” — Trail off, as if you’re considering some options.
• “I’m not sure you’re willing to put in the work it will take.” — Make the Student assure you that she is.
• “Yes, I’m afraid I must insist.”
• “You say you’re a good girl, but you need to show me.”
• “Very well. Kneel here in front of me while I think about how to help you. I’m sure you know what to do.”
• “Before you can bring up your grade, you need to be punished for your cheating. Bend over my knee and pull down your panties. This is for your own good.” — Spanking is always fun.
• “How many spanks do you think you deserve?” — Make her pick a number. Does she understand how serious this situation is?
• “Are you really trying your hardest? Is this your best effort?”
• “You’ve done well on the oral portion of the exam.”
• “I expect to see you in my office every week, Miss Corte.”
• “Good girls don’t come without permission.”
• “While you’re coming, say I’m a good girl! over and over.”

And here are some things the Student can do or say:

• Dress demure or slutty, depending on how you want to play the Student. Wear a dress or skirt.
• Act worried, reluctant, and desperate. You need to pass this class, but what will it take?
• Say “sir” or “Professor” in every sentence. He is handsome and powerful. You respect him and need his approval.
• If you and your spouse are comfortable with it, you can protest and refuse the Professor’s insinuations and demands until he uses his power to coerce you into submission. It’s up to you both how far you want to go with this kind of power play, and you should probably discuss it beforehand and potentially use a safe word so that no one’s boundaries are crossed.
• “Why did you want to see me, sir?”
• “I really need to pass this class, Professor.” — Be desperate, flash your eyes, look worried.
• “If I don’t pass, my parents will kill me, Professor!” — Be scared of the consequences.
• “But then I might not graduate, sir.”
• “I always try my hardest, sir.” — You really want to pass. This poor performance isn’t like you at all.
• “What can I do to improve my grade, Professor?” — You see where this is going, but you’re reluctant.
• “I couldn’t possibly do that, sir!” — Protest! Refuse!
• “But I’m a good girl!” — You can’t trade your virtue for a grade… can you?
• “Yes, professor, I’ll do whatever it takes.” — What choice do you have?
• “I’m sorry I cheated, Professor. I want to earn back your trust.” — Submission.
• “Thank you for correcting me, sir.”
• “Yes sir, I’ll be your best student!”
• “What else can I do, sir?” — You want to please him, you want to prove yourself to him.
• “I’m a good girl, sir! I’m a good girl!”

Afterwards, break the scene and leave your roles. The game is over (for now), so go back to being your normal selves. Have a good cuddle. Talk about your favorite parts of the scene, and stay positive. Later on, after the glow wears off, discuss anything you didn’t like and wouldn’t choose to do again. If your spouse really liked some element that wasn’t your favorite, negotiate and compromise and find the common ground that works for your marriage.

Have you ever role-played as professor-and-student with your spouse? How do you play it? Leave a comment!