Happy New Year! New Years is a time of looking back and looking forward, resembling a cycle of death and rebirth. The old year has come to an end. The new year stretches ahead of us like a field of possibility. A lot of people make resolutions. There is hope for change, for something new, for something better. I think it is the potential that is the most exciting. When God created us with free will He gave us the ability to shape our futures. What an incredible gift! El Fury and I take New Years as an opportunity to discuss the past and future in an effort to enhance the present. We look at the past year and discuss what we are thankful for, what we could improve upon, and what went really great. Then we look forward and discuss our goals, how we want to grow, what we want to do. As you are making your resolutions, make sure to set goals with your spouse. Include some sexy goals!
Have a discussion with your spouse to help you shape what your sexolutions can be:
- If both of us have the sex life that we dream of, what does that look like?
- When we look back at the end of 2024 and thinking, we had a great sex life, what were the things that happened to make that true?
- What did we feel to make that true?
- What did we do to make that true?
- What did we avoid to make that true?
- What are the things we should start? Stop? Continue?
- What would you be willing to give up this year to have an awesome sex life? Is that time? Alcohol? Sleeping in?
- What would you be willing to change about yourself? Look inward, specifically about yourself. Don’t ask what the other person could change.
In your discussion, focus on being positive, forward looking. This isn’t the time for the airing of grievances. You are shaping your future with your spouse, make it exciting and joyful.
Here is a list of sexolutions that you can try with your spouse in 2024:
- Have 1 more orgasm per week than what you are already having. This might require some effort. You might have to get up a little earlier. You might have to muster up the desire. If anything is worth putting effort into, it’s your marriage. You will never regret having an orgasm with your spouse!
- Introduce novelty into your sex life. Try one of the games on our site. Try having each of you write down 6 ideas and draw them randomly once a month through the year.
- Date. Go out. Pick a frequency. Once a month, once a week, once a quarter. Ask a babysitter to commit to a regular time.
- Have sex outside once this year.
- Have sex in a different room of your house.
- Have sex at a different time of day.
- Try a different style of music during sex.
- At least once this year try something that is outside of your comfort zone.
- Talk about your sex life with your spouse. Most of the questions we get on our site would be solved with communication. The more you talk about sex with your spouse the easier it gets.
Be specific. Try not to just say ‘have more’ or ‘do less’. If your goals are more specific you are more likely to achieve them. Write them down. Set reminders to check them. We pray that when 2025 begins you can look back on 2024 and be able to confidently say that it was one sexy year.