Science: “The ‘quickie’ saved my marriage”

Science: "The 'quickie' saved my marriage" 1

In a completely surprising turn of events, scientists are suggesting that frequent sex may be the key to a happy marriage!

During the 14-day study period, couples reported having sex on an average of 4 days.

Not only was sexual activity associated with same-day sexual satisfaction, but also the researchers found that a single act of sex produced an afterglow that persisted for 2 days.

However, they found that couples who reported a stronger sexual afterglow were more likely to report greater marital satisfaction 4-6 months later, compared with couples with a weaker sexual afterglow.

Meltzer says the study findings are important, as they support previous research suggesting that sex plays an important role in partner bonding.

What would we do without these brilliant scientists?! This is amazing, groundbreaking research.

If you have lots of sex, not only will your marriage be stronger, you’ll also get a promotion at work!

To understand the impact of sex on work, the researchers documented 159 married employees over the course of two weeks, asking them to complete two surveys a day.

Overwhelmingly, employees who had sex were in more positive moods the next day.

And the elevated mood levels in the morning led to more sustained work engagement and job satisfaction throughout the workday.

The effect, which appears to linger for at least 24 hours, was equally strong for both men and women.

If wives don’t get enough sex, they may become angry.

Corrine, a mother of two children aged five and 15 months, made the connection between her mood swings and the state of her love life after her children were born.

‘Before we had children, we’d have sex whenever we wanted and would hardly go a day or two without,’ she recalls. ‘But then parenthood drained our energy and we’d often be too exhausted.

‘As the gaps between our lovemaking became wider, I noticed the difference in my attitude to Matt. Even when we hadn’t had sex for just a week, I’d start to feel like we were drifting apart and it made me frustrated and angry.

Just this week, scientists from Florida State University confirmed the importance of sex in making women happy, revealing it triggers an ‘afterglow’ that lingers for 48 hours and which helps couples to bond. Without it, they become miserable and distant.

You may have noticed the common thread in these three stories (because I bolded it) — the beneficial side effects of sex last for up to 48 hours, and then it’s time for another dose. Even if the lower sex-drive spouse (usually but not always the wife) doesn’t realize it, the marriage itself and both partners individually benefit from frequent sex. We’ve written about “duty sex” before, and even though we don’t like that term we do think that married couples should create the habit of daily sex — the more sex you have, the better it gets. Maybe a better term is “maintenance sex”.

Let me tell you, the “quickie” saved my marriage. I read about it in the book “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” years ago where the author explains how important the sex act is to the man and that the woman should give into the quickie.

Best…I mean BEST…sex advice I ever received!!! Long live the quickie!!

What about your marriage? Would it improve if you had sex more often? What’s your target frequency? Are you hitting it?

7 comments

  1. WOW! And such fun besides.
    Happiness in my marriage is reflected by our contact, physical, verbal and emotional.

    Such a wonderful post!

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  2. Quickies can be a delightful and important part of a couples sex life. Just remember not to let quickies crowd out longer encounters. Long encounters are very enjoyable and for many woman are necessary for orgasm.

    I understand why wives with higher drive husbands may be hesitant to embrace an intercourse quickie for him. If that is the majority of sex they are less likely to be satisfied themselves.

    My suggestion is to have intercourse be mostly reserved for long encounters and a hand job or oral sex be used for what you called maintenence sex. This can keep the wife from feeling sexually frustrated.

    If an intercourse quickie is needed one good option is what I call “present the behind”. While the husband is, say, putting the kids to bed the wife uses her fingers or a marital aid and some lubricant to prepare for intercourse. Once the husband joins her in the bedroom she leans over the bed or bathroom counter (https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/take-me-now/) and “presents the behind”. The husband then takes her hard and fast from behind until he orgasms. If she does not O she can use the marital aid to finish beforehand or afterwards if time is a concern.

    This is best used in the form of a surprise. Now men love taking time to pleasure their women and dont find it a burden at all. That said, it is a special treat to occasionally have an encounter where the wife makes it all about him and he is free to let loose his passion.

    Few things tell a man he is loved more than finding his wife ready and waiting and for many men nothing is more pleasurable than the exquisite delight of intense doggy style sex with their wives.

    1. My suggestion is to have intercourse be mostly reserved for long encounters and a hand job or oral sex be used for what you called maintenence sex. This can keep the wife from feeling sexually frustrated.

      Sexy Corte prefers regular vanilla intercourse for quickies!

      1. Glad to hear that works for y’all. There is no one size fits all approach when it comes to couple’s sexual preferences. God made us unique.

        I have conversed with other couples about quickies and for many woman who need time to O an intercourse quickie leaves them feeling dissatisfied, hence my suggestion.

        Quickies are good things but if they are the only item on the menu it can lead to dissatisfaction for one or both spouses. In that case a couple should look at their time management and open up more time to increase satisfaction.

        Then again if both spouses can O easily in 5 minutes then a majority quickie diet can be perfectly satisfying. It depends on the couple and their unique sexual design and preferences.

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