The Bible has a lot to say about giving thanks to God for His blessings in our lives.
And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Colossians 3:17
“Whatever you do” includes your sex life with your spouse! To celebrate Thanksgiving, here’s a list of 10 elements of your sex life that you can thank God and your spouse for. For each item, write down something specific that your spouse is or does that you are especially thankful for.
- Body: What parts of your spouse’s body are you most thankful for?
- Appearance: What about your spouse’s appearance are you most thankful for?
- Behavior: What sexual behaviors of your spouse are you most thankful for?
- Words: What sexual words of your spouse are you most thankful for?
- Intimacy: What forms or moments of intimacy with your spouse are you most thankful for?
- Giving pleasure: What ways do you give pleasure to your spouse that you are thankful you can do?
- Receiving pleasure: What ways does your spouse give you pleasure that you’re thankful for?
- Position: What sexual position are you most thankful for?
- Sexual activities: What sex games or activities that you do with your spouse are you most thankful for?
- Trying hard: What is your spouse working on sexually for your benefit that you’re thankful for? Not that your spouse has necessarily accomplished it yet, but you’re thankful that they’re trying.
There’s no need to stop at 10 — maybe these will just get you started! If you want to share your thanks, leave a comment and let us know what a blessing your spouse is to you.
That’s an interesting concept, especially with the list of prompts. We need to look at our shared sexuality more in that way. I may be easier for some couples to write out their lists but I would encourage them to try speaking it if at all possible. It may even be a shortcut to write it first and then read your answers to them if speaking trips you up.
Thanks for leaving a comment! We weren’t sure if this idea connected with anyone or not. I ended up writing two hand-written pages giving thanks for Sexy Corte’s sexuality, and it made her feel very special and valued.
And if you can’t answer all ten do what you can. Forgot that earlier.
I meant to comment on this post last year but never got around to it.
1. Body: I have often told my wife she has the body of a goddess and its true. While our sex life has not been the best I at least have the opportunity to see her naked everyday.
My overall favorite part of her body is her eyes but just looking at sexual parts she has attractiveness in spades. Her butt is gorgeous and feels great pressed against me. Her vagina is an ocean of pleasure and connection.
My favorite part though has to be her breasts. They are small in size but humongous in visual and tactile pleasure. I love feeling them against my chest, taking them in my mouth and hands, and viewing their beauty everyday. She can bring me to O using only her breasts and if I talk about them for more than 20 seconds during LM I will finish every single time.
2. Appearance: My wife did ballet as a kid and she still has the “dancer poise” that just makes her look graceful and hotter than the Sun.
3. Behavior: Playfulness and teasing. She likes to tease by doing things like puffing out her chest to accentuate her breasts, sticking her butt out, or surreptitiously pressing her butt into my crotch when I have my arms around her in public.
4. Words: I am thankful she is comfortable using certain words to describe body parts. I am also thankful for her loving attitude and encouraging words when I am dealing with penile issues.
5. Intimacy: I love the frequent snuggle cuddles. One of my LL’s is physical touch and I enjoy cuddling almost as much as sex. She is a great cuddler.
6. Giving pleasure: I love rubbing her clitoris. Its the number one way she receives sexual pleasure and it is a joy to see her delight. The feel of her clitoris as her arousal deepens is also very enjoyable.
7. Receiving pleasure: Rubbing her breasts against my chest, pressing her butt into me, deep kissing etc.
8. Position: Doggy style. The deep penetration and powerful thrusting possible in this position create the greatest physical pleasure I have ever experienced. It also doesn’t hurt that the wife really likes it too.
9. Sexual activities: I am very thankful for her wearing things like lingerie and short skirts while lovemaking. Few things make me feel more manly that bending her over, hiking the skirt (or entering through crotchless underwear), and taking her as she’s still clothed.
10. Trying hard: I am thankful that she is getting help for her OCD and is working hard to get better. Our sex life has been in the dumps most of the year due to issues with both of us but I think this coming new year will give us an opportunity to reset our sex life and be better together.