Some of the links we’ve most enjoyed over the past week:
Delight Your Marriage has started a podcast; try this one: “How Being Happy Saved Her Marriage” (via HHH).
Why Men Avoid Counselling — I think some men may connect better with a female counselor; the biggest hesitation is that a man might feel like he’s walking into an ambush.
Toss Your Score Card, Liver Generously — good policy for all areas of life.
What If Gatekeepers Are Victims? — as a father with daughters, it’s hard to deliver just the right message: you should vigilantly abstain while you are single, and then do it like bunnies when you get married.
What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story — don’t let toys dominate your intimacy with your spouse. Also, keep spare batteries handy.
3 Simple Ways to Create a More Intimate Bedroom – we wrote about this in our two-part series about making your master bedroom your sex room.
The Fantasy Box — Looks fun, especially if it’s a different experience every month. Hey, where’s our free review copy?
The Happy Couple’s Guide To Marriage (And Sex) After A Baby
If you know of something else I need to link to, leave a comment or shoot me a message!
Is Make Up Sex Real? — Yes, you can repair small arguments with sex.
Holiday Refuge — In the chaos of the holidays, make you master bedroom (i.e., your sex room) a refuge.
Sexual Fantasy – Her Secret Sin? — If you’re having trouble staying “in the moment” while having sex, my suggestion is to intentionally increase your responsiveness.
Clitoral Slapping — This is new to us. Try it and let us know what you think!
Slippery When Wet: Lubricant Review, and More Lubricants — Lubes for every situation.
Is Your Husband the Sexiest Man Alive? — Your spouse is your standard of beauty.
Bow-Dazzle! — My favorite holiday sex tip? Christmas elf lingerie.
In addition to El Fury’s post about the Master Bedroom being the Sex Room, I wanted to add a few other thoughts. There are other ways in which we make this room our Sex Room.
Having nightstands with drawers gives us a lot of concealed storage for various sex props. We keep a lot of toys, fun books, lube, etc. in our nightstands. It’s nice to have these things readily accessible in the heat of the moment.
I think our bedroom looks sexy too. We picked out the bedding and the furniture together, so it’s our room. We try to keep it tidy too, so at least for me, when I walk into our bedroom I don’t think about what I need to do to clean it up. I think about what I want to do, or about what I liked doing.
Sexy Corte and I have a lot of married friends who are shocked and surprised when they learn that we always lock our bedroom door at night. It seems that most of our peers not only keep their doors unlocked, but often sleep with their doors open or with their kids in the sex bed!
This is wrong. How are you going to get it on when kids can burst in any any time? Or when kids are in bed with you? The master bedroom is a place of intimacy, privacy, and sexual abandon! It’s your pleasure garden. The kids need to be kept out.
You need to think of your master bedroom as the sex room. Sure, you should have sex all over the house when possible, but if you have kids then most of the time you’ll be getting it on in your sex room. Your bed is the sex bed. In the sex room, sex can happen at any time. The sex bed is for doing dirty deeds with your spouse, not cuddling your kids.
Your kids should rarely enter the sex room, and certainly not without permission. If you’re in the sex room, you should be either preparing to have sex, actually having sex, or half-conscious from amazing sex. (Or asleep, I guess.) You don’t want your kids walking in on that, do you?
Most of sex is mental and emotional, not physical. If you think of your bedroom as your sex room, guess what? Your mind and emotions will shift to make it true. Guard your intimacy and your privacy with your spouse, because if you don’t respect them then your kids certainly won’t.