Spring is in the air!

How did we miss Lips Appreciation Day?

The clitoris is not a doorbell — For best results, I suggest touching everything else first, and only moving to the clitoris when she begs you to.

Admiring his manhood — Yes, men can have body issues, and yes, it’s pretty hot when our wives admire our manly bits.

How to Have “Vacation Sex” – Even When You’re Not on Vacation — Be prepared!

Sexual intimacy and grief — Intimacy with your spouse can be a powerful source of comfort and healing, when the grieving spouse is ready to receive it.

“Wives either feel loved or used” — “If they feel loved they can be okay with being valued for sex BUT if they don’t feel loved, they see it as being valued only for sex.”

What I Truly Believe About Men — a valuable mention of love languages, plus insight into how women view men. I guess we’re as confusing as they are.

Three oral sex techniques: Tip Top, Gummer, and Lip Gloss.

Sleeping naked will do wonders for your marriage — Wives, if you get too cold just buy a pair of thigh-high socks. That still counts as naked in my book.

We often don’t have time to link to every great thing that Jay Dee writes:

How can a lady feel turned on around her husband? — Plus tips for how to get in the mood in a hurry.

10 ways to signal “yes” to your husband — Don’t forget secret message panties and coins in a bowl. Or, you know, just use words.

Enjoy some time outside in the sun with your spouse!

Reader “MM” asks:

Intimacy after losing a loved one. This is something I’ve thought about in the past. I want to know your thoughts about this. Do you think it’s taboo to engage in sex soon after losing one’s mother, father, brother, ect., or would you say it’s all right? I would think the comfort from married intimacy in the wake of loss would work wonders, but then, I haven’t found myself in that situation. What do you think?

This is a hard question for me to answer: neither Sexy Corte nor I have been in this position yet. Everyone eventually faces grief in life, so your question is universal.

It would seem to me that the intimacy of sex with your spouse would be very comforting in a time of grief. Far from being taboo, sexual intimacy can be a powerful healing force when one spouse is hurting. However, everyone is different, so I’d follow the cues of the grieving spouse. If Sexy Corte were grieving, I would provide all the comfort I could, and be available for sexual intimacy if she desired it.

Sometimes it’s hard for a grieving person to accept comfort of any kind, and that’s normal. However, as the immediacy and intensity of the grief dulls, it becomes easier to both talk about the loss and to welcome another person into the intimacy of the experience. If your spouse is grieving, I recommend that you make yourself available for whatever kind of comfort she desires, whether that’s listening, conversation, distraction, or sexual intimacy.

If any readers would like to share their experiences with this situation, please do so in the comments.

Update: An anonymous commenter points to a verse I should have thought of: 2 Samuel 12:24. After the illness and eventual death of King David and Bathsheba’s first child, conceived in adultery and murder, the parents are grief-stricken. They find comfort in repentance (Psalm 51) and each other.

Then David comforted his wife, Bathsheba, and went in to her and lay with her, and she bore a son, and he called his name Solomon.

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