We get a lot of emails with questions and comments — which are great! — but nothing is more gratifying than hearing from readers who have experienced a positive change in their sex lives thanks to our blog. We believe it’s God’s will for every married couple to have amazing sex, and we’re thrilled to play even a small role in spreading that blessing.
This email from “FN” is so exciting! Who wouldn’t want a marriage like this?
Hello SC! I just wanted to write and thank you for your website. You have given me so much, I don’t know, liberty maybe? My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th anniversary in September. We were each other’s first and only sex partners over all these years, but because of me our sex life wasn’t always good. My husband had every reason to go elsewhere (and I thank God daily that he didn’t). I changed over the years and sex got better but I was really thinking only about myself or “doing the deed” to keep him satisfied. There were things he wanted to do but I just didn’t know if they were acceptable for Christians. Some of these things I became okay with over time, but there were still others that I cringed at every time he suggested them.
A week ago after having sex where he just did not orgasm (and he does almost all the time) he asked me if I was having sex just to please him — did I really want it? Well, I did — we had found a really good position that had made me climax a couple of times and I really liked it, but his comment was like a slap in the face and I realized that I still wasn’t pleasing my man. I did a google search for what was acceptable in a Christian marriage and came across your website. I read, read, and read some more. That night we had the most amazing sex, and our attitude has lasted all week! We’ve been having sex two or three times every day! I think we’ve had more sex in the past week then we did in the last six months. Sad I know.
I am so hot for my husband right now, I only remember feeling this way a handful of times over the years. I have been obsessing about sex with him all week. We ordered new toys and sexy nighties, and I can’t wait for them to arrive. I have been spicing up every evening and we have been going to bed much earlier than normal. He is in heaven and wonders who I am, so I shared this site with him.
My children really need to hurry up and move out so I can meet him at the door in my birthday suit! (I do love my children but I’m ready for the empty nest/house so we can have sex anywhere!) Thank you again for your site. I wish I had read articles like yours 30 years ago, but I’m looking forward to the remaining years God gives us together.
If reading this email makes you sad or envious because your sex life isn’t everything it could be, don’t despair! God answers prayers, and he wants you to have a strong marriage and a great sex life with your spouse. Pray, confess any sin in your life that is hampering your marriage, communicate with your spouse, see a doctor if you need to… do whatever it takes to strengthen your marriage and invigorate your sex life! Let the email above be an encouragement to you.
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