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Reader “T” asks:
I was talking to my wife the other night about swallowing during oral sex and it was very informative. During the talk I asked why she didn’t care for swallowing. She said that she has a strong gag reflex, and there are times when I have a lot of semen and she gags or she can’t deep throat because of her gag reflex. She mentioned the possibility of using numbing sprays for her throat and I was wondering if you or Sexy Corte had any thoughts about that.
If only semen tasted like chocolate! Alas!
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Let’s directly address T’s question first: yes, it it is generally safe to use numbing sprays to help overcome your gag reflex. However, in my opinion there’s a better option: practice.
I recognize that this advice may seem self-serving, as a husband on the receiving end, but the gag reflex can be desensitized over time by repeated exposure. This will be a bit of work for the wife and require some determination, but hopefully it will be pleasurable. The basic principle is simple: the wife should practice taking the husband’s penis into her mouth and throat as deep as possible, over and over. She should focus on herself and work at improving her depth and time, rather than trying to bring her husband to orgasm. Like any physical training, it will take time and effort to see improvement.
Wives, your reaction to this idea of practice and improvement may be along the lines of: screw that, he should be glad I go down at all! That’s fine, it’s up to you. I’m only pointing out that physical training will improve your gag reflex if you want to. It’s exercise you can even do while watching television!
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As someone who worked in the dental field for 20 years, I have some experience with the gag reflex as well as having one of my own. While taking x-rays, I would tell my patients to lift their feet causing them to think about that instead. It worked very well. I would suggest not concentrating on the sensations in your throat, but feeling the pleasure of your husband. Focus on him, and, you are right, practice, practice, practice!
Great tips, thank you!
By “focus on the sensations in her body” I meant that the focus of the practice isn’t to stimulate the husband, but for the wife to focus on desensitizing herself. Does that make sense? Do you think I should change it?
That was not how I read it.
Does it make more sense now?
Yes, it does. And as for the taste…a little Nutella works wonders!
You know, we haven’t really tried flavored stuff like that. I’ll see if SC wants to.